Being a SAHM is a challenge. Not in the sense that it is so much hard work, but its the fact that home and work are one and the same, and the two are never separated, and you often end up feeling like its a never-ending thing.
Over the last 20 months, I've come to realise a few things -
- Husbands who work, can never totally understand our point of view, so expecting them to help intuitively doesn't work out. We need to spell it clearly to them, and ask them for specific help.
- Connect with some good friends of yours, and see if you can arrange for a monthly girl's outings, and if one of them can pick you up. Let your husband know and arrange for baby-sitter if needed. The first 1-2 times can seem challenging, but it'll get smoother.
- We need to organise our own time through out the day - time for cooking, time for kids meals, time for reading, time for playing, time for shower, time for bath, time for naps, time for outings, time for a little TV, time for relaxing and kids playing by themselves, time for household chores.
It sounds really tough initially, and I freaked out when my mom gave me this advice. But she helped me break it down, and I tried a time-table for 1 week. I felt really silly doing it, but it actually worked. Do a time-table for yourself.
For the initial 1 week, you'd feel like your kids are deliberately bent on not following it and giving you hell maybe, but they need time to understand too. Keep to it. Once you form a pattern slowly, take up your old hobbies and your 'me-time' favorites and plan them one thing each week.
You can do it! Good luck to you! :)