I have been through two divorces; the first was my choice, and the best thing I ever did, and the second was not my choice, and was very hard on me. After my first divorce I threw a party and celebrated when it was final. After my second one I took a few weeks and focused on me. I spent time with my friends and family, pampered myself, and took up an old hobby that I hadn't done in years. During the separation I had to get used to being alone. My kids were with their dad half the time and I was home alone for extended periods of time for the first time since I became an adult. It was a big time of adjustment for me and I had to re-learn who I was without my kids and without my husband. It was hard for me, but in the end, it made me stronger and really helped me figure out who I was and what I wanted. I was in counciling once a week with a woman I completely trusted and that was a huge help for me!
As all the other women have said, time heals even the most painful wounds. No one wants to hear that, but really, it's the truth. The more you focus on being true to yourself, and keeping busy with positive things, the faster you will heal. Drinking, sleeping around, drugs, or being a bump on the log al the time, will only slow the process of healing. Get in a routine, do things for yourself, and focus on your loved ones, and things WILL get better! I'd wish you luck, but you don't need it; you just need to be the woman you are, and things will start looking up!