How Often on Average?

before my dd 3 times a week, after dd well waited 9 weeks, then tried once and then haven't really done too much since, it has been 5 months and finally tried again, no desire, also taking meds that decrease desire, I have NONE and could go without it forever, anyone gone through spells that that, my dd is almost 2!

go D.!!!
we're old, so we're down to once or twice a week, sometimes less. occasionally (deliciously!) more. i love it that a good few of you are enjoying scrumpaliciousness on a daily basis!
:) khairete
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My husband is a night owl. Goes in to work about 8:30 am and works until 7:30 pm....then needs time to chill.....and usually goes to bed about midnight.

I get up early for work at 5:45 am and usually wiped out by 9pm and in bed by 9:30 pm. Our schedules are complicated by 3 teen boys who have really weird hours and are always roaming about the house.....

I think there is no "normal." My husband would be very very happy with 4-5 times a week....but sometimes things can't work out that way. We can't put the teen age kids in their rooms at 8:30 pm and tell them to go to sleep.

Before my daughter at least once a day. After she was born it took a good 6 months to get back "into the groove". Now she is 3 and we are back to at least once a day. Of course life happens and sometimes I fall asleep before he gets home or vice versa (we own an Irish Pub and the hours can be crazy). I really think a healthy sex life is an essential ingredient in a happy partnership! Plus, it's SO fun!!! :)

Once or twice a week...I have a child that sometimes doesn't fall asleep until late...and no lock on the door...we need to fix that!! lol

Is it bad when you both are just too tired at night to do anything ? That's the way its felt for us the last few months. It was 3 or 4 times a week, now its like once a week when we have a day off and feel like we can focus on each other. I think high levels of stress just weigh couples down so badly. We are both in college and working full time and on top of that I am 9 months pregnant. Add financial worries and family stresses into that mix and it's very easy to not have time for anything !

I have four kids- 1, 3, 5 and 6... We "get it on" at least 3 times a week, up to twice a day. Moms are asking "how do you fit it in?!?!" Well, for ONE thing, it doesn't HAVE to take an hour or more! My answer is if you have time to fit in a conversation with your husband at home then you have time for sex:) Mornings- right when you wake up, nights, right before you go to sleep, right after the kids go to bed, etc... It really is fun, and brings us closer together beyond the physical.

Side note... whenever I "give in" because I "wasn't in the mood"... I NEVER REGRET IT! Try that!

My DH is gone all week, comes home tired on Fridays, so we try to make time at least once during the weekend when our child is with Gparents. I do know that it seems like the more you get, the more you want, and for us, if we miss our weekly (and only chance) we tend to get a little cranky. Sometimes it is a matter of fake it till you make it after having kids hanging on you all week and just wanting to sleep!!

once or twice a week on average more or less. Usually in the morning although sometimes if he's not working we grab a quickie while the kids are outside playing.

Herm...on a bad week, only two or three times. On a good week, sometimes more than once per day. Once my youngest was 5 or 6 weeks old, almost daily. We have a 3 1/2 year old and an almost 2 year old and work opposite schedules, so we don't always have as much cuddly time (just what is appropriate in front of the kids), but we make sure to find time for that! :) I start to get grumpy and feel bad about myself, not to mention other frustrations, if we go more than a day or two. I think it helps if people are pretty equally matched as well. I've always thought it was weird when people go a long time after having kids before doing anything again (unless there was a lot of trauma or damage), or people who simply don't care about doing that. Seems rather sad to me. It really doesn't have to take all that much time, so I've never understood people saying they don't have time for it. Ah well, that's us I guess. :)

2-3 times per week. Try for every other day, but it doens't always work.

Well when we got our little one on a good schedule, once a day. =)

We have an 18 month old and I'm almost six months pregnant. We have sex probably once a week, sometimes less.
I'm too tired after a day with the little guy, plus my sex drive plummeted during this pregnancy! He's tired too usually after work and "daddy time", so I haven't heard many complaints.
I sure hope it goes back up though after this baby!!! :)

Before Kids: Every day, sometimes more than once a day...
After 3 kids: Usually once a week.... :( Wish it was more often. Sometimes we will have a good week where we do it like 3-4 times. But not often. Husband works 12-15 hour days and I am a SAHM with 5 yo, 3yo, and 5 mo.

***Edited to add: the longest we have gone without it is one year, that was after I got pregnant with my second, and before that it was once a week every week for the last 7 years! I would love to have more than that***

OMG everyday???? Ladies please share your secrets, I'm def missing out. We have sex maybe once a week and it just seems that everything gets in the way of planning a romantic evening.
My problem is actually getting in the mood, sometimes during the day I might a fleeting thought like "uhm I could have sex today" but then chaos ensues, dishes to wash, carpets to vacum, diapers to change etc.
I'm going to read your answers because I need some tips!
it's awesome that you have a great sex life enjoy it, you are not a sicko!

Once a week. I have 4 kids and take a lot of libido crushing medicine so i could be less than some... or less than my husband and i would like :(

We do throw some other fun stuff in between when we can ;)

For the past couple months... nada... I've been ticked at him.

Prior to that, once or twice a day plus a skipped week has been our average.

We also skipped nearly a year a couple years ago when DH was experimenting in drinking and coming home tanked every night. (Once a month or so was our tops... a-I was ticked, b-ewwwwww. Vomit & irresponsibility /= sex)

Maybe once a week but sometimes less, sometimes more. He also travels a lot so for now, its three weeks without. When we do, though, its fantastic. While it might not be as often as others, it works just fine for us.

We used to only stop for meals, but we've been married for 10 years now and have two small children. I work at night while they sleep and he writes before we wake up. We have a great marriage and we're attracted to each other. I'm just saying that not often isn't a sign of anything bad, it's just normal for us.

Well, after my son was born until during my pregnancy with my daughter our average was 10x per week. I had really bad health issues with my daughter though, and we've gotten busier, so it's gone down to 3-4 times per week. I'm working on my health issues though, and we're looking forward to the average going back up when our son is in school. My hubby's job has changed though, so we know it won't go back up to 10. We'll probably have to settle for 5-6.

Wow, I can't believe you all find time for so much sex! I can't imagine squeezing one more thing into my day, so for us it's almost never. I think last year it was once, when our second child was still a baby. This year it's been a few times. I just have no desire whatsoever. It's the last thing on my mind. Also I sleep with the kids in our bed, which my husband was completely on board with, and he has taken to sleeping in the next room, so that could certainly make it harder. Also with my post-baby belly ponch I feel completely undesirable and disgusted wtih my body, so I avoid it. If I could find the time I would start doing sit-ups first, sex later. Hmm, maybe I should get off the computer....

It used to be almost every day but since our daughter was born 18 months ago we just kinda want some down time and space. We're beat from him working long hours and me running around with a kid all day. If we could have sex at about noon we would do it waaaaaaay more often than once or twice a week.

I go for at least 5 days a week. If it were up to me more then that but he works funky hours and that does not always work. Alot of times it is in the morning, just seems to work out better.