If you feel like you're missing out, let your provider know. See if there's anything she can do to help. Can she journal for you. Can she give you a run down of the accomplishments your daughter had for the day. Is there something your daughter seems to have trouble/issues with? If so, does she have any suggestions? IS she acting differently than normal? If so, can you and she figure out what might be leading to is. See if there's anything she talks to the other parents about, that might pertain to you and your daughter. These are things I talk to my provider about.
My provider journals for the kids. She writes, what they ate, when they slept and how long, when they were changed and were they wet or messy. My oldest isn't journaled anymore because I have a 6 month old and I'm pretty familiar with the older ones routine. It's nice to see what their daily routine is. IF your provider doesn't journal, I guess I'd just ask. How did she do with lunch, how long did she sleep. Was she crabby, was there anything non typical that seemed to be going on.
My provider also makes sure to advise us if say one kid hits our son and she says "I checked for a mark, but didn't see one. So let me know if you see anything."
Sometimes if my kids end up with rash and their poops are different than normal, she'll ask if they had extra juice or if they ate anything different recently. It helps her and it helps me.
Just things like that. I also have conversations with my provider, she just talks about her day...sometimes says what issues the other kids had. She's got 5 kids, 2 are mine, one is hers, and two are two different parents kids. I'm familiar with their parents and their kids, so that's probably why she talks about the other kids.