How Do You Moms Feel???

If it bothers you, say something. If you choose not to say something, then you need to let it go. The showering thing would bother me too, but again- say something or let it go. If he wants some "adult time" in the evening... showering is a must!

News flash---all husbands get on their wives nerves, but you know what? We get on their nerves, too. Yep, believe it or not, you are most likely just as annoying to him as he is to you! It's kind of just part of the package deal. Some people are more laid-back, some more uptight so they allow it to "get to" them more.

As for the showering every night before bed, that falls into the category of "adult decisions" meaning once you're an adult, it is 100% your decision ONLY. Sure, you can bug him about it, you can not like it, you can let it drive you absolutely insane if you so choose, but he still gets the final say. Personally, I hate showering at night because then I go to sleep with wet hair. I prefer if my husband showers at night only because it frees up our only bathroom for me in the morning, but it's up to him whether or not he does.

Lighten up, sweetie. This stuff you're stressing over, totally not worth it! ;)

If my wife asked me to shower, I'd tke a shower. If she ORDERED me to shower, I would resist, but I'd probably shower anyway. I dearly love my wife and if showering would make her smile, I'd shower. (Its not THAT difficult.)

Ask nice.

Good luck to you and yours.

Here is the thing, you act like it doesn't get on your nerves but it does. So when you speak and act that shows through. Just because guys aren't as verbose as we are doesn't mean they are dead. They pick up on that stuff. So next time he is doing something that gets on your nerves just nicely explain then and there.

Um the shower thing, whatever. Really is that your battle line? Unless I am doing something outdoors I do not shower at night, why would I, I just have to shower again in the morning.

I rarely shower every day - unless I can actually smell myself stinking.
My previous husband used to shower once a week, yes once. Strangely enough he never stunk, but BJ's only came for him, you guessed it, once a week LOL
If he is an outdoor worker, sweating all day, then he needs a quick swish, but I understand if he is tired, I live in TX, and working outside all day would make me worn out.

if he's working in the heat and sweating, he NEEDS to shower, i don't care how tired he is. if my husband didn't do that, he wouldn't be sleeping in my bed. all those dead skin cells, and the sweat and dirt on my sheets. that's disgusting!!! the thing that annoys me about my husband is that he thinks that since i'm a woman i can't know anything about carpentry or things like that. or put something together. i'm the one who has to read directions to him, because he can't understand them. and my father was a carpenter his whole life. he built buildings, condos, schools, furniture. i can tell my husband a thing or two about things!! wow, now i need to calm myself down. :)

With him working out in the heat , he should shower everynight. if he worked in an office I wouldn't care.
The thing that drives me nuts is the way DH sorts the laundry.
yes he does the laundry , yes I am grateful but the way he sorts laundry drives me batty. He sorts them into each individual color! Not just Darks, brights, whites, towels, etc. nope he sorts them into Blues, Greens/browns, Blacks, reds, hot water whites, cold water whites, yellows , pinks/purples.. . . etc. So he has a TON of loads of laundry and it never all gets done.

It's those little quirks that you found endearing when you met him -- minus the lack of showering...
If my Mr. nags, I tend to call him on it. I ask him why he's nagging me. Many times he doesn't realize he's being a nag, he just wants something done.
I've learned over my 22 years of marriage that if they ask if they can help, I let them. :-) It might mean he's in my way, but often, he'll say that he'll do this so I can do that. It's nice.
YMMV
LBC

Is this a serious question? If all my husband did to annoy me was not shower (and my husband could go DAYS) I would be in heaven!

So, yes, I think you are being a little naggy. He doesn't have to shower if he doesn't want to. I am sure you do things to annoy him as well. It is different if he is doing something mean or inconsiderate. While you may prefer he shower, it isn't hurting you. (I hope!)

=)

Sounds like every morning with my husband! He wakes up cranky every day. He also does not shower at night, although I think he should. He is a mechanic in a shop that is not air conditioned. He usually ends up passing out before he can get in the shower. Funny he doesn't really stink to me though HA!. He showers every morning.

I personally shower every other day because I just don't get dirty. I sit in an office at a computer all day.