How Do You Know If You Want Another Child?

S.: It's a hard choice. I'm at the same place... I enjoy the younger ages so much but, I also, enjoy how much my children are now...my final question is Do you have time? All the other questions are "do-able" but, children need time. I realize that I don't have time for another child and I wouldn't want to do that to a child. S I will just enjoy what I have and really get to know my babies and appreciate every minute with them.

Best wishes- H.

My opinion is - if you question it, don't do it.
Take Care,
Tam

Hi S.!
Do you know anyone with an infant? If so, ask to care for that little one for several hours (and tell them why). Trust me, you'll know by the end of the day if you're ready for another little one in your house. LOL!!

Best Wishes!
Just Me!
S.

My husband and I battled with the same decision for a while as well. We have three boys, 7, almost three (same as your little ones!) and our youngest is 16 mos old. For us, the deciding factor was looking at our extended family. Both of us grew up in families where we had TONS of Aunts, Uncles and Cousins. All of our parents came from 4+ children families. Both of us enjoyed growing up with large families. They provided great support systems for us throughout life, as well as taught us lessons about taking care of one another and being selfless. Then we looked at our immediate families. We each have one sister. We thought about how different it will be for our children just having two Aunts, right now they have no Uncles, and one Cousin. It is definately quieter for them than it was for us, and we didn't think it was necessarily a good thing. So, we decided to go with three. Since our third was born I have been able to see how my two oldest have had to make sacrifices and be less selfish than they were able to be before, and I think it will benefit them in the longrun. There are also some downfalls, such as the financial responsibility of three children, when there are more kids than parents, things are bound to get CRAZY ;) It's really a personal decision and there is no right or wrong answer. I'm sure whatever you decide will be the right choice for your family. Good luck!

No offense, but if you are asking other people if you are ready, you are not ready. My husband and I went through the same thing. One day I was totally ready for another, the next I wasn't sure. We also have an 8 and 5 year old. I just can't imagine starting over at this point. I mean, the packing of the diapers, wipes, bottles, formula, extra clothes, stroller, just to go to the mall made exhausted just thinking of it. We decided not to just because we didn't think it would be fair to any of us or the new baby.

hi there i to am a mother of 3. 2 boys ages 13, 11 and 1 girl age 12 and my last child which is the baby of the family i knew i wanted him when i was reaching my peak into leaving my 20's and going into my 30's and for some reason u just know its an intuison for moms and if u feel u are wanting one an this to be ur last then by all means go for it and dont let any one stop u . i have been married 13 1/2 yrs and i dont regret haveing mine so close together either . good luck in haveing ur last its a mother thing if u are ready to have another by all means Go For IT! Good Luck!

My older son is 6 years old and I have baby that is almost 11 months old... there is five years and two months difference between my kids... my husband and i have recently decided to try and have another kid.... it is hard and a lot of work to have three kids and after a kid that can keep themselves intertained and you dont have to do everything for them it is hard to decide wether you want another child or not.... if you really want a kid go for it and if you have any questions then you and your husband need to sit down and talk about all the pros and cons of having another baby.... babies do take a lot of time and energy and can be very expensive but they are so rewarding.... i cant wait to have my next baby and we will probably try for one more but that is us and not you and your husband.... it is completely yours and your husbands decision... Good luck and if you have decide on having another baby good luck with that too.....

I you do, then you'd know it. Some people follow the philosophy of not impeding it, but not trying, so if it happens it happens.

We are at two and coming from a family with 3. and There's always an odd man out with three. lots of things can be paired up for or mom can take one, dad has one, and your set. But 3 sometimes create the sticky wicket. Also, with 3 you have the broader range of finding things to do to satisfy all ends of the spectrum. We have a friend that just had their 3rd and they planned too, but now their considering a 4th partly to round out so to eliminate the "odd man out" thing.

Bottom line if you have doubts, step back and re-evaluate.

I can say that I come from a family of 3 children and I love it. I would not trade my brother or sister for the world and I know they feel the same...however, I think this is how you would feel if you had 10 children!!

At one point in my life I swore I'd never have more children, now we are trying! It is in our hearts that this is what we want. We aren't thinking about even or odd numbers, we aren't thinking of or how many cousins this may produce, we're following our hearts. We will never feel financially ready, I've learned that from the past...so we are going with our hearts. I guess that's the only advice I have, if you really aren't sure, I wouldn't activly try, I also wouldn't stop anything...In our lives we believe if it's meant to happen it will...

Thanks!