How Do I Get Her to Sleep?

My son did the same thing when I would put him to be I would sit on the stairs outside his door and cry because if it was up to me I would have him sleep with me.

But what I did was the 5 min - 10 min - 15 min and so on finally it worked. My son did the same thing he would get himself so upset that he would throw up. After like the 6th time of cleaning up vomit I just let him stay up until he fell asleep on the floow. Granted not the way to do but whatever works.

H. - SAHM (31 yrs old) 2 1/2 year old son - Antonio Thomas

hi i twin boys that my husband and i used to hold every nihgt with there bottles and they would fall asleep this way . at 1 1/2 yrs old there doc asked me how do i put them to sleep . i told him and he said , do you want to this till they are 7? he told me to start putting to bed and let them cry them selves to sleep he said that if they wake up in the middle of the night that they should be able to put them selves back to sleep.with out us holding them. well it took me two weeks to start it and 3wks till they did it. and during that time i can't tell what a pain it was cause i wanted to hold them so bad . but i knew that my doctor was right . my one son did wake up during the night and i would go in there and not take him out of the crib but tell him it is ok. and lay him back down and rub his back for a minute but not take him out. there is a book that was just on the today show about this . you should look it up. i am not a big book person , like how raise a perfect kid . not every kid is the same so put your spin on it. good luck and god bless you .
it is hard the first couple of days .real hard . but stick to your guns. do not let her in your bed.

Hi Candice,

I had the same problem that you had. I started letting my son cry until he fell asleep. It was hard at first but they'll get used to it eventually. Maybe you should try that. The longest to let them cry should probably 1 hour or maybe more, I don't know. My son usually would cry the most 30 mins. I would put the monitor down so I couldn't hear him and put the TV louder and every now and then, check on him. I would do it that way so it wouldn't hurt me to hear him cry. But it worked for me.

This sounds very similar to what I went through with my youngest son. Part of his sleep issues was my fault because he is my last son and I didn't want to give that up quickly! I rocked him to sleep until he was almost 18 months old. Then I couldn't understand why he didn't want to go to bed without the rocking! I tried the "cry it out" method with him, but it didn't really work with him. The only thing that worked was to put him in his crib, while still awake. I would sit on the floor next to his crib and slowly move out of the room. Some nights it lasted a few minutes, some nights 1/2 an hour. After about a week, I would put him in his crib and stand by the door until he fell asleep. I think the whole process took 2-3 weeks, but he fell asleep and stayed asleep. Anytime he did wake up, I would keep him in his crib and either rub his back, pat his bottom, rub his head, anything soothing, but did not take him out of his crib and tried not to make any sounds. As for the molars, you can try so many things for the pain. Baby Orajel, teethers, cold, wet washclothes to chew on, Tylenol. The most important thing through this whole process is routine. Good luck!

HI
I have the same issues with my 15 month old daughter. She got into the habbit of nursing & falling a sleep while nursing then we would put her in her crib, but If she woke up in the middle of the night thats where our problems started and she wouldent want to go back to the crib unless we started over again with the nursing. I have no choice now but to put her in her crib & let her cry it out, I hate it but it seems to be working. The crying seems to be less & less (tonight was only for a few minutes)If you frear she will vomit watch her thru the crack of the door until she settles down. Its defiantely a hard thing but unless you want her in your bed there isnt much else to do, ann It will pay off in the long run.Good Luck!!

hi, i know your pain all too well. 1st i kept my daughter in bed with me from birth (and intended to put her in the crib after i was able to move around easier after the c-section) but she stayed with me until she was almost 6 months old. the ONLY reason i pushed myself into putting her into the crib was because she DID fall off the bed, and i didn't want her to get really hurt. to be honest, it took us almost 2 weeks to get her to go to sleep on her own...but once i finally listened to everyone, and just let her scream herself to sleep with her bottle...it only took 3 day (from the start of letting her scream). just recently, she was sick, and when she got better, she wouldn't sleep in her crib anymore. we had to sit up with her until she'd fall asleep, and even after that, she'd wake up every hr or so....i asked for help through here, and got MANY great suggestions. and for some reason, NOTHING was working. until i thought about routine...and how my husband had just started working 2 weeks before all this happened...so i figured it was the thought of "daddy not being there" like during the day. once i made him put her to bed, the problem stopped. she DID wake up a couple times before we went to bed, but i made him put her back down every time, and then once we went to bed, she stayed down the rest of the night! i did try putting her to bed myself the other day, and she was up all night again. i would suggest keeping the music going, but try and see, maybe if your husband puts her to bed (and back to bed when she wakes up) maybe she'll start sleeping through the night (or at least back to the way she was before he went on vacation). i know every situation is different, and for me (this past time) NOTHING worked, until i had him put her to sleep. hopefully this will work for you, if not, i hope that someone else's suggestions do the job! oh, and my daughter is VERY close in age to your's...only a couple weeks off (04/05/06) so who knows, maybe it's just something with turning 1...because it was just 2-3 weeks ago that my problem started! oh, and try giving her the Gentle Naturals Homeopathic Teething Drops (it's got a pic of baby winnie the pooh and eeyore on the box)it seems to help my daughter, and she's also working on her 2nd top molar tooth coming in. well, good luck, let me know how things went....i'd like to know if something else works (just incase we start having sleeping problems again) :o)

You just have to put her in the crib and let her cry it out. It will take a few very noisy painful nights, but will give you all your sanity in the long run. I did this for both my children around four months old and they have been wonderful ever since. If it is too hard for you to just leave her alone then try sitting in the room with her for a couple of nights but NOT holding her. It is really hard at first but worth it. Good luck.

C.,

I'm sorry to hear about your daughter. I have a 1-year-old boy and he sleeps with us every night. My boyfriend is upset with me, because it is my fault. I'm so attached to him, so I refuse to kick him back to his crib. He also kicks and climbs over us at night.

I know it will be difficult but at this point I think my son should start learning who's boss. Try pulling her crib close to your bed and rubbing her back when she looks like she's on the verge of waking up. Take it step by step.

Good luck.

You definatley have to leave her in her crib. Let her cry it out. I did it with my kids and it worked. My kids didn't throw up though. If thats what your baby does then try either rubbing her back or tummy or just sitting in the room and letting them know that your there is enough. It will take a few nights like the others say, but it works, consistancy is the key. Just whatever you do don't pick her up because it'll never get any better then. GOOD LUCK!