...keep a pregnancy secret till the 2 trimester when at 11 1/2 weeks (my 4 th) I already look like I did with my 1 st at 5 months. Still have not seen the doctor, since health department does not see you till second trimester. Good thing it is winter so jackets worked GREAT , but gosh today it's going to be 80 here:) I am just wondering what other mamas do........Do you tell people earlier with 2nd,3rd ect child? I did have to tell 3 close friends(two of them asked point blank and I was not going to lie and the third one kept trying to make me drink wine and would not quit:)), otherwise nobody knows, not even the family...........TIA
PS usually people do not tell till they are over 12 weeks/saw a doctor to make sure the pregnancy is viable
There is no sarcastic tone here...genuine question.
If you are 11.5 weeks you are 3.5 days away...does 3.5 days really matter?
I didn't have a a magic date where we told people. It was not a secret but I didn't go around broadcasting my pregnancies to anyone. I assumed if people said congrats they knew and nothing of it. I was showed very early with my second...it was clear to everyone.
Some things you just can't keep quiet.
Why is such a wonderful happening such a big secret?? I don't get it.
Why are you wanting to keep it a secret?
Since you are extremely close to the second trimester and are showing, I think you might want to consider outing yourself especially if people are guessing that you are pregnant.
Obviously in this case you can't. Two people already asked you point blank so I would bet others "know" too.
Why would you want to?
If you're showing, I would say that the 2nd trimester/12 week rule goes out the window. You're only a few days away from the 12-week magic date anyway...go ahead and tell your family now and then spread the word! You might be surprised by how many people haven't noticed LOL - I didn't tell about my 2nd until I was 22 weeks, my 3rd was announced at 17 weeks and I made it 12 weeks with my twin pregnancy and very few people suspected before we shared the news.
Congrats and share your news!
To those who don't understand keeping things under wraps...miscarriages are most likely to happen in the first trimester. Many women keep things under wraps first trimester so that if something awful happens, they don't have to tell the whole world and risk having people who didn't hear about the loss ask "how are you feeling, how's the baby?" weeks or months after a pregnancy loss. We didn't tell anyone until we were reasonably sure that we were carrying a healthy baby.
Having had 3 miscarriages, I do understand your desire to wait until the second tri.
Just do the best you can. People may suspect, but you still don't have to spill the beans just yet--but you're really close! Congrats!
Why are you trying so hard to hide it, are you going to get in trouble? If you are showing so much, just embrace it.
If you are showing it is just going to be more and more of an issue. Sounds like you need to go anyway just to verify you are pregnant via "official" means.
