WOW...there was a few harsh comments to your post.....so to those i thought this was a place to get some positive advice, im sure we have to be harsh and frank at times but i think the way those comments came across sounded more judgmental towards you.......so shame on them.......
Now back to your question...i wish i had that answer for myself aswell......Im only 27yrs and have three amazing boys 5, 4 and 9mo old. After #3 was born my husband and i both though we were done and he would go get "fixed"....But then i started going back and forth....he kept to his guns.....that he was done..(FYI he has a 12yr son from previous relationship....)...
My reasons for being done is that i want to enjoy my three boys and its harder to do when you have to "drag" along a baby and all there needs.....example....its hard to volunteer at my sons school because that means i need to find daycare for baby, or tee ball this summer.... i wasnt able to help on the field because i had to tend to baby......so things like this make me say NO more........
But to think of not being able to have have anymore if my husband has the surgery makes me sad......its just so final......even now i see a newborn and my heart aches to think it will never happen to me again......i enjoyed my pregnancies, and delivery.....
And funny thing ....my husband just dropped his "decision" on me...he said in four years when we are more settled we can have one more......
made me feel better to know that in four yrs i can make the decision of yes or no .......
my boys will be a little older and if i still have that feeling of wanting another then we will.....
But in your case you still want more and if like you said your able to provide for them, i would consult with doctor and see what your options are. And from what he tells you it might make your decision easier or clearer.
And very quickly to those that werent so nice .......you do things everyday that may cause to take you away from your family....and we still do it.....So i would suggest that we give our opinions and not be judgmental......
FYI..my other reason for not wanting another is ......im scared to have a girl...i think we are good with boys.......so to not push my luck i think we might jsut stop while we are ahead... :o)......
Good luck with whatever you and your family decide .......would love to hear an update.....