i would like to know how to handle a new problem before it gets out of hand. hitting. my grandson seems to have started this in this past month. when he gets frustrated ie he doesn't want to get into his car seat or since he doesn't speak as yet getting his need across he hits. how do we solve this and what could have caused it?
Hello S.
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T. K.
You don't say how old. If old enough to talk, ask him about it. What does mom and dad say? Try to explain why hitting is bad, how it hurts and why does he want to hurt people. My daughter doesn't always want to get in her car seat. But it's the rule and the car doesn't leave without her buckled in, no matter how many people are in the car. Good luck.
I think most toddlers go through this. IMHO nothing "causes" this at this age. You said he doesn't speak yet, well that's a frustration in itself for all involved. He's expressing himself. Most likely he wants to stay at where ever he is because he's having a good time for instance, so you'll have to figure ways to transition him over to the car. Build it up before you leave to get in the car, sing a silly song about getting in the car seat, or lets see how fast you can get in your seat! Offer rewards for good behavior, and if there is hitting, like the other poster said explain hitting is not nice in a calm voice. Redirect the behavior. Good luck!
Work on developing his speech. Don't punish or acknowledge the hitting. He'll learn that this is not an effective method of communication. Show him ways to get out his frustration. And just wait it out until he finds another form of communication.
