K.H.
I hate to sound mean but perhaps you should leave him with the kids. Not for good but for a while. Hubby probably doesn't spend as much time with the kids as you do and doesn't realize at what point this has esalated to. See if you can visit relatives for a weekend or week or find a way to take a break and let him see what is going on. Or put a hidden video camera somewhere and catch the kids in the act. Then watch it with hubby for movie night without him knowing what you are actually watching at first. Another idea is to threaten to call Super Nanny show. It is important for two parents to be on the same page when it comes to discipline for children can actually learn to manipulate one or the other according to their needs (or wants) and can ultimately destroy the family, and/or marriage. Good luck, sweetheart.