My 13 mth old son has recently started a new daycare. He loved his previous daycare and started there when he was 3mths old. His previous daycare provider closed in order to go back to school full time. Great for her horrible for my son. He started his new daycare 2 weeks ago, and everyday I take him there he screams and cries. When I pick him up he is ready to leave right away. When we get home in the evening he whines and throws fits all night which is something he has never done before. I talked to the new dacare povider about making sure he gets a good nap because he acts like he is ready for bed at 6:30 and his previous bedtime was 9:30. He also fights me in getting ready in the morning which again he has never done before. He was a very laid back and happy child but now he is whiny and behaves horribly. He has also started hitting and pushing. I have seen a huge change in his behavior and personality. I don't know if this is normal for starting a new daycare or if I should start looking for new child care. Also my husband has been out of town for 2 weeeks on business and only home on the weekends so I dont know if the is why he is behaving badly. I am really concerned and confussed. I cry every day that I leave him there because he is so unhappy when I leave him. I was so used to him going in and waving bye and not even caring that I was leaving him. Please Help
I would be concerned with the way he acts when you take him! Something could be happening. I am not trying to scare you! Your little one will let you know. Also, you should look for a new daycare provider. Follow your instincts. I went through 4 daycare providers before I found one I trusted and that my son liked.
Good Luck!
I have been so blessed to be a licensed home daycare provider for the past few years. If I had any openings for you I'd help you out. I can't imagine how hard it must be to leave your little one who is seeming to be so upset each morning. Some of my happiest children have gone through periods (particularly when they first start care) where they "put on the show" for mom and dad each day. Ask the provider to call you once your child calms down and begins to interact with the others. You'll know if she is giving it to you straight. All home-based child care providers in Kansas are SUPPOSED to be licensed or at least registered with the state Health department. If your provider is registered or licensed she HAS to allow you to enter her home ANY time your child is in her care - WITHOUT ADVANCE NOTICE. Surprise them all by stopping by during a break some day. You will really get an idea of the environment yoru son is in and how he is interacting. It sounds like you have a lot going on right now. Take your time making decisions with long-term impact. I wish you all the best!
Hi W.,
If this were my child I would have no qualms about switching care. I'd love to talk to you about possibly watching him. I have an 18 month old and would love to watch another child in my home again. It would just be my daughter, your son, and me! Great one-on-one care! Could it be that he is learning this bad behavior from the other kiddos?
R.
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Unfortunately it could be that your little one is either reactig the the change of different environment or he just doesn't like it. Take your time to make whatever decision you see fit. I can tell you that my little boy, age 2, does act a little more whiny and needy when dad goes out of town. I noticed the pattern but it took a few trips for me to see it. Sometimes that could be it. But again, do what you feel is best for you and your child.
My son just started a new day care home today. It is with his same provider he is used to, but now she is doing it with her sister in the sisters hoome. It is really nice. However, this morning, my son wanted me to go with him everywhere. It's a new place and dad left to go out of town this morning so we'll see how he is.
By the way, the daycare still has a couple of spots available. If you are interested in stopping by or checking it out, let me know and I can get you the information. ____@____.com
As a side note....I LOVE our provider..both of them now. I would trust her to keep my son overnight before I would trust some of my family if that tells you anything.
I had a similar experience with my oldest daughter. She loved her first babysitter and then we moved to a new city. It was horrible, she would start to cry the minute she saw the building and when I picked her up she was always sitting by herself by the door and would bolt out as soon as she could. It was heartbreaking. After having multiple meetings with her care providers and no change I'd had enough. We went looking for somewhere new and found another center. She loved it and stayed there until we moved again. So I guess what I'm trying to say is that your son is trying to tell you something. Listen! I know it's hard to find good care that is affordable, but you need too. It will make both your lives better.
Good Luck and God Bless!
