Help! Hubby in Middle of Mid-life Crisis, I Am Sinking!!!

This may not be what your looking for, but I will offer it anyway.

What is Modest Needs?

Modest Needs is a non-profit organization reaching out to hard-working individuals and families who suddenly find themselves faced with small, emergency expenses that they have no way to afford on their own.

Most persons living paycheck to paycheck earn just barely too much to qualify for any type of conventional assistance. This means they can't receive the help they need to overcome a short-term crisis - until they've already lost everything.
Modest Needs exist s b ecause we think there's a better way to do things. As far as we're concerned, no hard-working person should ever have to choose between taking a child to the doctor and putting food on the table.

http://modestneeds.org

I am sure you are going to get other support through here with more specific ways to handle this, but wanted to add this in, too. *Hugs.*

he needs a psychiatric evaluation. it sounds like he may be manic. if there were a way to have the kids come stay with you and the grandmother, you should try and do it.

Hi Vicky,

Take what I say with a grain of salt because I have no experience with this, so it is just my opinion. I guess you have to ask yourself what you want to accomplish first. How old are you? Fourties?? Husband too? Anyway, do you want the children? Do you want to save the marriage?? Anyway, mid life crisis is just an old excuse for bad behavior. We as women suffer through the same hassles of growing older as men do, why is it ok for them? Personally, what I hear is he is not taking care of his children. You can be tough and call in someone like DCF, but where will the kids end up in the long run? How old was his wife when she died?? Maybe he is still reacting to never getting over this ( i dont know the story) Anyway, the plain fact is he is not taking care of kids. That would be the biggest concern to me, and i would bring it up, or take the steps to fix that problem.

Wow! I'm so sorry that you have to go through this... Well, I don't have much advice to give but it doesn't sound like mid-life crisis but more like an irresponsible, selfish human being. Try to keep a balanced view on all of this and be intelligent with your choices. Get legal advice about your money situation and get a separate bank account. If you want to adopt the children, you also need to seek legal advice ASAP! Don't dilly dally and put your faith in false promises or hopes. Even if you love this man, you need to be strong and intelligent about your choices now so that you can secure a stable future for yourself and your children. Good luck hon.

Hi V.,
It sounds like your going through so much right now.
It's very hard when children are involved. Especially when you can't get custody of them.
Your credit is in jeopardy also. Have you thought about contacting a lawyer, to help you not lose everything you have and have worked hard to build? Your in a tough situation! I have an off the wall idea if you want to hear, I'm not sure, but it's the only thing I can think of.
Praying the best for you,
P.
You can email me: ____@____.com

WOW. i am sorry that you are goingt hrough this. It must be difficult especially with children involved and knowing legally you can not get them out of this situation.
You might not want to hear this but I would suggest couples counseling if you are looking to save your marriage or finalizing a divorce and getting out before he drags you down with him. as for the kids? offer them emotional support and or get them some help as well.