Hi!!
I have a beautiful girl who is 18 months! She's smart, but the problem is she can't leave my side! She needs to always be held, or she screams until I can't take it and give in. Or until she throws up! My husband helps by trying to take her, but it only works for a little while. I try and get her attention onto something else (which sometimes works) but it doesn't last too long! When I'm not around she does fine. But if I'm home with her (and I am a stay at home mom) then she just can't get enough of me! I'm having a hard time getting things done. Does anyone have any suggestions???
Thanks!
Well my son is attached at the hip as well, but it really helps when we have there cousins come over. He really enjoys playing with the other kids and it gives me a little break because he gets tired afterwards and wants to nap. I think some kids are just more attached then others. My daughter couldn't be more independent. Sometimes I wish she would bother me more. Good luck.
H.
Hello!!!!!!!!!! My friend had the same problem with her baby.... have you tryed to sit her down in one of her toys and put it where you are. Like if you are in the kitchen then have her be close by and playin with a toy or sit her in her high chair and have her palying with a toy. What my friend did was she too a clean x box and put three littl toys in it like things she could touch and that worked. Then eventualley she did things on her own and did not wnat mommy as much........
My son did that too. Not really throw up but gagged on his spit until he choked. He was fighting sleeping. And testing me early terrible 2s. But he's 3 now and is so independent except he still won't potty train nor eat with fork and spoon.
I read the baby whisperer book for toddlers and it was really helpful. I would start with baby steps, have activities where she can do them and be right next to you but not on you. Have your husband sit between the 2 of you and read a book to her and have you stay there too. She may be thinking everytime someone comes to play with her you leave and that may scare her. I will look through that book to see if anything else comes up and let you know... good luck.
my 2 year old daughter does the same thing (cry's until she throws up!) but it is only when she has to go to sleep at night. i have been working with this issue for awhile and am finding out that you cannot give in!! EVER! if she throws up talk to her in a calm voice and let her know that it's not going to work this time.. believe me it is hard and may take awhile, but it is working for me. maybe it will work for you. i find that talking to her in an adult manner instead of baby talk is better. she understand's really they do.
Unfortunately, I am in agreement with the "DO NOT GIVE IN". advice. If you know that there is nothing physically/medically wrong with your child, put her to bed and do what you have to do to keep her there until she goes to sleep. Eventually she will go to sleep, and eventually you will "win". It is a strong will you are dealing with and you will have more problems later if you give in now. Good luck.
Some times you just have to listen to them cry. I have three little girls (4,3,6 months)and with my first I think I spoiled her because I couldn't put her down. I told her, at 24months, mama's here you can see me. She still cried but after awhile she stopped crying so much and then after about a week of doing this she was totally fine by herself. As long as she is feed, clean diapered, and not teething then she will be ok crying for a while. It may drive you crazy, but that is some thing you will just have to deal with. All of my girls are wonderful now my 3 and 4 year old are really good playing by themselves and if they have a problem they know to come to me. I know it will be hard for you to hear your baby cry, but sometimes that is the only answer.
My daughter went through a faze like that too. What worked for me was to get her involved in what I was doing. I would give her a wet towel when I was cleaning and she would think she was helping or if I was in the bathroom getting ready I would give her a brush or comb so she could get ready too. My daughter is three now and it has turned into great bonding time. I am a single mom now so it is really special to me that we do our daily routine together! I hope this is helpful for you good luck :)
Hi C., My daughter is going to be 2 next month, and I went through the same thing with her. She wouldn't even let my husband hold her - she would follow me around while I cooked and would SCREAM!!! I would be having friends over for dinner even, and they would offer to pick her up, and I would tell them to just let her scream until I could pick her up. Once I did, she would stop instantly! I would just let her cry for a while and try to explain to her in small words, that mommy is cooking dinner, or mommy is doing this--and as soon as I was done I could pick her up. She finally stopped doing it consistently about 2 months ago - so hopefully your daughter sill stop soon. She does still do it if we have people over the house for about an hour - I have to carry her around with me. I have very strong arms now since she is about 25 pounds! But then after about an hour she is fine and running around and playing. I was told to leave her with a babysitter or someone during the day, or to even start her in preschool so she would get over it. But I decided that for this short time, no matter how much I hated it when she was so needy (my needy child is what I called her) that this too shall pass. Then she'll want nothing to do with me! Which is now what is occurring. She has turned into a sweet little girl now - and is getting more independant every day.
I wish you sanity breaks until your little one changes, hopefully she will grow out of it soon.
Do you have your kids in a playgroup? It helped my kids immensly being in playgroups. They go to know other kids and other adults and became not so fearful of new people.
Heather
I am 35 with my first child a boy who is 23 months and he use to do the same thing. I enrolled him in a preschool so he could be away and not be so dependent. As for getting things done I learned to have him help me by giving him a dry sponge and a bucket to pretend clean. Anything I did I involved him so I could get things done. I own a buisiness so I have learned tricks. I make dinner a day ahead and reheat the next. Certain videos work to at times. J. in Phx. Az.
Mine did that with their mom too. I found that by finding things that they can be engaged with you can increase your distance with time. Initially all I did was get a bunch of Duplo blocks and sit them in the kitchen off to the side so they could see mom and play. Everybody wins.
