Hi mamas,
For a reason, our kids and the puppy love hanging out on our bed. We usually find "people" on our bed watching TV (on the computer, we even don't have TV in our room), reading books, eating snack and chewing bones! It's cute and they look so happy but it's kind of a mess. When I'm in a good mood, it's fine but sometimes I wonder if we need to claim our privacy back.
We do have plenty of rooms in the house but I guess the bed is cozier.
Should we shoo them away or just enjoy it, since kids will go to college some day?
I would make a No snacks and No dogs in my room policy. Don't take away their access completely, but set limits so you don't have such a mess to deal with.
I have a king size bed with tons of pillows and comfy blankies, it is the perfect chill out spot for everyone...pets too. The kids, pets and me all pile on my bed and talk about the days events, it's our bonding time. I love it. I cherish every minute. Only rule, no eating on my bed.
Take photos.
Often in my life I'm presented with a choice: Get angry, or get the camera.
Not once have I ever regretted getting the camera. I've often regretted getting angry.
Here's another fun mantra: Improvise, adapt, and overcome.
If the problem is the mess... how can you improvise/adapt/overcome the problem?
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I would let them enjoy it... They're not hurting anyone or anything right? I remmeber as a kid i loved to hang in my parent's bed. It was a cozy place where i felt secure.... As long as they are respecting your space and things... i say leave them be... =D
I think kids like mom and dad's bed because its big and comfey. You might consider closing you door and giving them their own place to "hang-out." Good luck :)
I may be in the minority here BUT...
Keeping your couple life sexy and exciting is important too! If you don't take care of your marriage by providing an environment for intimacy to flourish then you will all suffer in the long term. There is plenty of room in the rest of the house for "hanging out" that just wouldn't work for romance. Start slowly, create a comfortable loungy environment elsewhere and encourage them to use it by giving it a draw. Place snacks out where you want them to lounge. Offer a family movie night there, etc.
My husband and I rarely get the opportunity to be intimate with two kids under 5 and when we do get the chance we NEED our room!!
Perhaps a change in your sofa to a more laid back kind of lounger like this:
http://cn1.kaboodle.com/hi/img/b/0/0/ee/f/AAAAC74hVf0AAAA...
or even adding bean bag chairs or other seating arrangements to make it more comfy or functional.
let it be...you'll miss it one day. :)
plus, whatta precious sight. they obviously love & trust you so much. i love that feeling personally. so it's sometimes annoying, yes, but take a deep breath and think of how precious they are to you. :)
i feel the same about my little baby family...my 2 yr old boy and my little dog are ALWAYS w/me, sometimes i gripe, but then sometimes, i think, "man i'm gonna be so sad for these times in 10 years!" then it makes me sad, so i just let 'em be how they wanna be (within reason - lol!)
Find a happy medium. We don't mind lounging on our bed because it is comfy and I've had some great conversations with my kids there. They are relaxed and end up being more open. However, no food is allowed on any bed in our house. Who wants to sleep with crumbs or have something get spilled. We sometimes allow the dogs and cat on our bed. We've had to make a rule with the kids that there is no 'playing' with the dogs on there, just cuddling and petting. Otherwise the whole bed gets messed up and I have to make it again just to sleep. It hasn't changed our intimacy but that's just us. Some people need the complete separation.
I can kind of sympathize, as our son co-sleeps and our pets all love our bed and our bedroom is kind of everyone's sanctuary. Sometimes I wish I could reclaim the sexiness of the bedroom that existed before there were three pets and a toddler and a mess and I could actually light the candles in the room. But, I try and remember that those years of cuddling and laughing and dog slobber and lost sleep go away so quickly and someday, the kids will be teenagers and won't want anything to do with us or our room and we'll reclaim it then. I wouldn't stress too much, these are the things that make life great!
