Had a Horrible No Good Very Bad Day!

It's gonna be okay, Kim. Everybody has had days like this, and all of us will probably have them again. Don't lose sleep; it will only make tomorrow harder. Your husband may have needed to be by himself to cry, for all you know – don't assume it's a reflection on you. Just be there for him tomorrow.

An airhead? Laugh – it's true, isn't it? So what? Don't carry today's "failures" with you, or they will only multiply. Pray or meditate if those are in your reach – they will truly help you get centered again. You don't want to start tomorrow off-balance.

Courage, and don't forget to breathe.

Kim-
I'm sorry your day was rough. I would guess all the little mom things wouldn't be such an issue if you weren't dealing with the big pink elephants of your in-laws care and MIL's cancer. Maybe you should join your hubby in the guest bed. Maybe it'll feel like you're somewhere else, not living your life? Honestly, if you miss a commitment it is not the end of the world. If you forget the little stuff, who cares? If you're called an airhead, your friend is being pretty insensitive. Maybe you should find a friend to just listen while you cry, pout, scream, yell, etc. Then he/she can give you a hug. Then you, in-kind, can reach out to your DH knowing that you can now be his rock.
Best and prayers,
S.

Hi Kim,

I know this doesn't help much but I know soooo many people dealing with the same issues. Me for one! Our lives are so full of running and fetching and young children and old parents that we tend to lose sight of the fact that there is no eternal significance to our fast pace lives, only to the ones we love. You did have a bad day. It was worse than mine and I'm sleep deprived and dealing with similar issues...Sleep deprivation will affect your memory. ABSOLUTELY! It will also affect your ability to communicate to your loved ones. Sometimes we just don't say things right. I know I've torked my honey several times this week when I was meaning to help. The words just came out wrong.

As my mama said, "this too shall pass." Start writing your to-do list down. Mark things off as you accomplish them. The friend that called you an airhead needs a good talking to...There's never a reason for name calling, especially among friends, kidding or not. Kim, stop and pray more. Make your kids stop and hug you more. Tell your husband that the guest bed is not as good as your bed. Try to force a smile even when you're sleep deprived. Put your four year old down for a nap and cuddle up with her and sleep. Keep taking one day at a time and enjoy what you have. It sounds like you have a lot. (just like me!) Thanks for reminding me!!!

Go to sleep! Rest! God bless!

M.

Cry it out if you need to, then, roll up your sleeves, put a smile on your face and get to work.

Life sucks sometimes, we all feel it from time to time. Pray for strength, focus on your blessings, it really helps! Go take a nap. Have a heart to heart with your husband and figure out a game plan so that you can help each other cope.

My father also had a very horrible and painful disease, it is awful to watch a loved one go through that, knowing that you can't take the pain away.

You and your husband need a special date night. One where you can focus on just you and get away for awhile. It's so true that we can't cope with things that weigh on us until we have a reserve of strength ourselves.

I hope this video will bring you some comfort. It's about 8 minutes long:
http://www.youtube.com/mormonmessages#p/a/u/1/KHDvxPjsm8E

Today is a new day. I hope you are feeling better.
Your friend was probably just joking and didn't know how you felt.
Tell her, cry on her shoulder and maybe she can help you somehow. Tell her how overwhelmed you are.
Then today make pancakes for dinner, with chocolate chips in them. We all need a break sometimes.
Your hubby must be just completely overwhelmed with his mom's cancer. Just let him know you are there and love him. And when he goes teo the guest bedroom, join him.
Many prayers for his mom and dad.

I have found among all the chaotic life stuff that I HAVE to take an hour to myself on those bad days, if not every day :) It helps to recharge, at first it was hard to forget what I was "putting off" but after taking an hour (or even just 30 mins) to read a book, get my hair cut, take a bath, bake my favorite cookie/food or dress myself up, I felt more "in control" ready to tackle life again.

You do have a lot on your plate, ignore those who are not helpful. It is easy to let life get you down, and it happens to everyone but look at the day and pick out the good things (even if it is you got to eat your favorite food or finished a book). That has really helped pull me out of those Very Bad Day funky days.

First - here's a hug.
Now... the person who called you an airhead - call her up and ask for help. She can do some driving or help you in some way. People can't help if they don't know you need it. Stop trying to do it all.
Your husband - yes he had a bad day. Maybe he slept in the guest room so that you could get a good night's sleep. Don't jump to conclusions... talk to him. You need to get through this mess together.
YMMV
LBC

Mama said there would be days like this! sometimes the things that we handle so well almost everyday overwhelm us in 5 minutes! It sounds to me like you need a break, and if you can afford to take a day just for you. drop those kids off, and just drive or take a tylenol pm and take a good nap then go get your favortie meal and relax. it won't solve your problems but sometimes we need a break and don't know it or keep saying we are going to do it and never get around to it until it's to late and we snap on somebody! As for the friend that called you an airhead, ask yourself if it wasn't a bad day already would you have taken it in stride. if yes then don't worry about it. if not then tell her she hurt your feelings and if she apolgizes accept it and move on. if she doesn't feed her with a long handled spoon or just leave her alone. Maybe give your husband a say or two and sit him down talk to him and ask him what's going on. he may have just wanted some attention, men are strange sometimes! I hope tommorow is a better day for you and you are in my prayers because i know the feeling!