Good Comeback?

I am 30 and get this ALL the time!! I simply state close to same as the last response did... "Yeah, I have my Masters Degree and consider myself a well-educated stay at home mom and I don't mind not having to worry about botox. Thanks for the compliment!!" Shuts them right up. If I am feeling nice I just say "Thanks for thinking I am so young!" and leave it at that. Leaves them wondering with egg on their face!

I'm stunned at how rude people can be! I have not experienced a rude comment regarding my daughter or myself however I'm sure I don't look all that young either - You're Lucky. Many of the responses that I thought of were just being rude right back and things that we probably would never really say -- but it's fun to imagine. For instance, "I am sure that someone in advancing years such as yourself may look at me and think I am just a teenager but I'm really 43!" Another one I like is, "Oh heavens no, I'm not underage but my boyfriend is.". Or, "are ya jealous??". And of course you can always start screaming, "He (She) tried to steal my baby! Help!"

But seriously, you can just imagine what you would really like to say in your head while you walk away with a grin on your face or you can get a little philosophical on the person and say "it's a shame that you are trying to judge a book by it's cover; you'll probably never know how many great opportunities you missed out on because of your harsh jugdement and negative attitude about people/life/the world", etc.

All in all we can feel sorry for those that feel the need to impose their unsolicited nasty opinions on us because they must be terribly unhappy people.

Anyway, I hope this made you smile a bit and hang in there.
K.

I had the same problem when my daughter (now 9) was a baby. I was 19 when I had her, but looked like 15 or 16. I also got looks from strangers, and people assumed she was my mom's baby when we were all together. I HATED IT! The one thing I'd say to women who would comment on it was, "well, I'm 19, and that may be young, but better to have my kids now while I still have energy! Plus, I'll have a life after 40! And better to have kids now than after 35, with all the risk of down syndrome and other problems that older women have when having babies!" Hope this helps, but if not, just take comfort in the fact that it won't last. I'm almost 29, and after three kids, I look my age! Maybe even older!

I used to get that, too. I was 22 when my daughter was born and a lot of people thought I was much younger than that. It must run in the family, though, considering now I have been mistaken numerous times as the mother to my 23 yr old sister!! She either looks incredibly young, or I now look really old! (I'm going to be 28 in a couple of weeks)

People will think what they want regardless of anything you do or say.... that's just the way it is. Just laugh it off and very soon, you will be viewed as extremely lucky that you don't look your age! ;)

I got this alot when I was younger, and also when I was pregnant with my second. I got some nasty looks from people, and one woman even said "Don't you think you should finish school before getting knocked up again" (Given her tone, I assume she meant high school) All I could do was calmly say "Well, I'm aiming for my Masters, and my husband and I didn't want to wait that long to add to our family". She left abruptly after that remark.

I honestly don't have any good advice for you, except to grin and bear it. I just wanted to post and let you know you're not the only one experiencing this, and definitely not the only one who's frustrated by it. :) Hang in there hon. :)

I get a lot of comments and looks from people as well, even when people see me with just my baby. When someone says something to me, I look at them and say, 'well, I have a 7yr old, 5 yr old and now my 7 wk old. Im 26, so I was pretty young when I had my daughter, however, I work very hard to be the best mom I can, and considering how well my kids are doing in school, I must be doing something right.' Or something like that. Most of the time they look kind of stunned, but I have gotten some apologies for their rudeness.

Good luck, and even though it is frusterating, enjoy it!!!

I actually have had the opposite experience with just as much frustration. For many years, I was mistaken for my sister's mother, even though I'm only 10 - 12 years older than them. I finally chalked it up to me "acting" like a mother to them when they were with me (hoping that people didn't really think that I was that old).

For a comeback to what the rude people say, I'm not sure that I actually have one, but I'd think to myself "I hope I look this good in 10 years" or whatever if they're mistaking you for a teen mom! You're lucky to look younger than your true age... enjoy the moment and be proud that you don't look like you've been run through the "life mill" already (must be what I look/looked like).

Now, I have a three year old and people think I look younger than my true age (40)... funny how children affect a person's perception of you, isn't it? When I tell them that I started my family late, they get shocked and I get the "I didn't know you were THAT OLD!!" I just laugh... it's so much more positive than absorbing negativity! ;o)

Hang in there... you're certainly not alone from all the other posts!

Actually, I was a teen mom when I had my first - I was 19 but close enough. Everyone assumed she was my baby sister. Even now that she is 15 they are still assuming that! I have a 5 year old now and oddly enough people assume that she was my oldest daughter's child up until a year or two ago. You just can't win. Some people will just be rude no matter what you do and that's just life. Ignore them. Make yourself and your daughter happy and just turn the other cheek.

What about a new hair-do or something simple like that? A new color or style? That could make the world of a difference, too. Just had my hair straightened after 18 years of having curls (naturally curly), and I can't believe the change. Want to try that change? Good luck, and LUCKY YOU!