My daughter is going to be 3 in October. She goes back and forth with doing good with potty training. She will do great one day and the next day want nothing to do with the potty. I also have a 9 month old son, whom she is extremely jealous of, even though she does adore him too. She is doing pretty well with number 1 on the potty but refuses to do number 2 on the potty. We have tried big girl panties which she picked out herself, but she will still poop in her panties when she wears them. Any suggestions? I even reward her with something she really loves when she does a good job with going on the potty, or give her an incentive to go all day on the potty. Just frustrated even though I'm sure she won't be a teenager still in diapers!! It's just a pain as most of you probably know to change more than one child's diaper and having to buy two different sizes of diapers!!!!
My daughter wil also be 3 in Oct and wants nothing to do with the potty. I also have an 11 month son. I figure its not worth the stress to push her she will let me know when she is ready. I understand how it is to change two children and buy two different size diapers. Waiting until she is really ready will create less stress for everyone.
We used a video called Potty Time. Odds are someone you know owns this video. My sister gave me her copy. Although it is the most corny video I have ever sat through my son loved it. And when he had a relapse we put it in again for a few days and he did better. I don't know why it works but it does. Good luck!
What's the rush! It is way too frustrating to rush this process. I let my now 5 year old take it at his own pace and he did start on his own on the potty and never went to diapers again right beforehis 3rd birthday... bow he wants to do "poopy" whereever we go!
I went through almost the same thing. My daughter was great with pee a few months after she turned 2. But she wouldn't poop on the potty. I just left her alone and whenever she would poop in her pull-up, I would calmly say, "ooh, poo-poo goes in the potty". Then one day she just pooped in the potty on her own. From there, she would pee on the real toilet, but not poop. I think she liked her feet to touch the floor to poop! Anyway, once again, I left her alone and followed her lead. By then I was pregnant, so it was REALLY gross having to empty the potty, but whatever. Right before she turned 3, she pooped in the toilet on her own one day and never looked back! Ten days after she turned 3 I had my son and it was only one kid in diapers for me. She too, loves her brother but still gets jealous sometimes. I just give her special time with me and let her be my "big helper" with the baby. Next month she will be 4 and my son turns 1. My daughter thinks she is his boss and little mother, but it is better than when she was so jealous that I caught her hitting him when he was really small. Good luck to you and just try to take it easy. Your daughter will get fully potty trained. :)
my son will be 3 in october too! (the 20th) and i had the IDENTICAL problem.......
here's what worked.......I went potty and made alot of noise,like(ouuuuch)
my boy came in and said whats wrong. i said," mommy poo poo and mommy tummy hurt! hug mommy? tummy hurt.
ever since then,when he feels his tummy hurt he goes in the bathroom sits on the big boy toilet and says,"mommy hug me....tummy hurt."
i hug him,rub his hurt tummy and BAM! all finished!!!!
Hi M.,
Is your daughter going to school in the Fall? That would be a great incentive for her to get trained. You could start now and say that she must be trained by the time school starts. Maybe having a specific goal would be helpful for her.
If she isn't going to school yet, then I would just take away the diapers cold turkey (except for at night). If she can do it some days and not others it means that it's a power struggle, and not an issue of whether she's ready or not. You may have to clean up some accidents in her underwear, but that won't happen often. It's probably confusing for her with too many choices (diapers/panties/treats), so this would be one time when limiting choices would be helpful.
Good luck,
A.
Have you talked to her about it at all? Maybe she's apprehensive about losing the poop. I know that sounds weird but I read a couple of books to help me through the potty-training. My daughter really viewed the poop as part of herself until I explained what it is and where it goes. Then it became a fun game for her to get to the potty in time and then to flush it down when she was done. I think I also mentioned several times that she couldn't go to preschool until she was going on the potty all the time and that helped to motivate her since she was seeing how much fun her older brother had at school. My mom's school of thought was 'Don't rush to change her right away when you're at home. It needs to get cold and uncomfortable for her to change her ways." I never did it to the point that she'd get a rash, but I definitely didn't rush to change her like I had before. I guess all of these things may have played a role in her getting trained. Good luck!
