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What a really nice gift from the parents of my boy to give was an album with his new family with a description of every one. (GRandparents and where they lived and what they liked, hobbies and all stuff they did.) It's something I saved and thought about later when I wondered what he was doing. It was an open adoption so I talk to him often and he likes to tell me what he does when he visits his grandparents. I can ask him questions about specific stuff because I have an idea of what their place looks like. I got to meet them also when my son was older, about five when I was driving across country. They are everything the adoptive parents described in the album. He's about to be thirteen now and I'm very proud of him.
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