This is really frustrating. My daughter who is 8 has been getting into trouble for the same thing over and over.....If it was something different each time, I could understand it better but the same thing all the time!? First of all, just for background info, she has been diagnosed with ADHD. We have her on meds and we are doing the behavior modification. She is also in counseling for additional behavior issues such as lieing and for taking things that do not belong to her. I'm at the point of where I don't know how good this counseling is doing for her. How do you know when to quit that and try something different? Or maybe switch to something else? I know it takes time and it takes a combined effort but it seems like there's no progress being made. She continues to get into trouble for the same things, it's like it's not sinking in. For instance, I already don't have many sweets in the house but if I do, I have to hide it or else she will take it and eat it all without asking. I bought myself a pack of gum the other day. I've had one piece. There is only two pieces left. I specifically told her yesterday that she can have no more. Well she got another piece this morning again without asking. I made her spit it out and she had to give up her dsi for the day for not listening and sneaking. I had it in my purse which she knows is off limits but that obviously doesn't stop her. Gum is a petty thing I know but that is just one example. This kind of thing happens freqently. She gets into trouble for it but it doesn't seem to phase her at all. When you talk to her she knows that it's wrong to do it but she does it anyways. It's like a lack of impulse control. She is very arguementative as well. However that's only with us. She does very well in school academically and behavior wise. So what do you do with a kid that keeps doing the same stuff over and over? I'm sort of at a loss. Running out of ideas. I'm hoping someone here has some that they can share with me. Thanks!
Just came across this article on Dr Mercola about a ten year old who killed himself because of these kinds of drugs (ritalin and prozac)
http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2011/0...
These drugs aren't even approved for use in children, yet they are prescribed like candy.
There is a lot of info on drug free ADHD treatment. Sometimes the drugs just make the situation worse. Hope you find a solution.
It is an ADD thing. I get so mad at my younger daughter and then I realize my parents did the same thing.
She isn't a bad person I swear. It is just you have already done the thing before you hear that little voice saying remember, you aren't supposed to do that. :(
She probably argues because she is defending that she is not a bad person not that she did something wrong. Kids just don't know how to explain themselves.
I would start by picking your battles. Try to get her to focus on the worst offenses. If she is looking at only one behavior she may overcome it and then she will know what it takes for her to overcome it and use that for everything else.
The hardest thing is those things that we are not supposed to do tend to stimulate our brains in the same way Adderall does. It feels soooooo good.
Lock up what you do not want her to have.
Keeping it within her reach is just unfair right now.
We had to lock up many things. Mine just couldn't keep his hands off the tv, computer, chocolate, soda.
We have a tv cabinet with a lock.
Password protected the computer with something I knew he couldn't spell.
I didn't buy soda. Candy was hidden.
I did allow him to have some things. At dinner he had chocolate milk, ice cream with syrup, soda when we went out to restaurants, certain tv shows were OK, computer time was monitored but he could have about an hour every day.
At 8 mine was a "line of sight" child. He was NEVER out of mine or my hubby's sight, even when he went to the bathroom, I watched the door. It makes you nuts, you lose your life, but to raise a child with absolutely no impulse control you have to be vigilant.
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Sounds like my children. Always sneaking food.
This is classic ADHD. It really is the lack of impulse control. They don't think things over the way normal kids do. They don't recall the consequences of past actions.
However, medication should help. We run into problems only when the medication is inactive. I wonder if the dosage or medication isn't quite right?
Also, I recommend a book called "Buzz: A Year of Paying Attention." I'm reading it right now. Written by a journalist whose son has ADHD. She runs into the same problem with repeat bad behavior, although in her case, it's her son hitting his brother every day. It's a really interesting and often fun read for those of us dealing with ADHD every day.
Good luck!
WOW! Your daughter and my son (just turned 9) sound exactly the same. He never follows the rules. I took away all sweets for the next two months cuz he slept on our recliner instead of his brand new bed, he peed on it while sleeping and then tried to cover it up with a towel. I went to wash a load of towels that morning and grabbed it and was almost knocked out by the odor. I then added no TV time. I went outside to hang my towels and pick up toys, and in that short time he had ate 1/2 and angel food cake ring AND a Ritter Sport chocolate candy bar. That's a ton of sugar. Last week he snuck half a package (24) of M&M cookies downstairs and ate every one of them. Sorry I don't have any advice but I hope you get some good answers, cuz I sure could use some help in this area too.
Does she earn an allowance?
My stepson would not mind to save his life.
UNTIL I started "docking" his pay.
I'm serious, it WORKED!
".25 for not shutting the shower curtain", and other fractions would cost him up to $2.00 or more of his $10.00 of hard earned allowance.
~A.
