How 'bout just ask him?
Hey babe? Before you take your shoes off can you bring that kitchen garbage out?
Hon? On the next commercial, can you take the dogs out/bring the laundry basket upstairs/load the dishwasher?
I hate to ask, but I've got to nurse the baby, can you give X a bath real quick/sweep up that mess in the family room?
Thank you SO much babe, don't know WHAT I'd do without you!
(One note, do not expect anything to be done to your own specifications, ever)
:)
Added** Well then, if asking nicely doesn't work, then I guess more DRASTIC measures ARE required as others have suggested. I guess you're gonna have to put your foot down then, yuck.
The most effective 'Drastic Measure' I can think of is to withhold sex. Of course this only works if you're actually HAVING sex, sigh. And I'd imagine you do not feel very loved/sexy after a day like the ones you describe here.