L.A.
Good Lord. woman.. your all over the board and I do not know how you are not just spilling the beans right now!! I am so excited for you!
Here is my suggestion.. Drop by the memorial for just a moment to give your sympathy.. Send a card expressing your condolences and share a nice memory of your friend.
Then you and your husband go to a special date night and for goodness sakes tell him!!!!
You can tell the family in the morning. Your marriage is #1 priority..