Funeral Night/ Date Night/ Announcing Pregnancy-uhhhg

Updated on March 05, 2012
I.X. asks from San Clemente, CA
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So I was going to surprise husband with #3 pregnancy tonight with our girls. However forgot tonight we have arrangements for a babysitter because we were planning on a memorial service. But since my husband did not know her well, we may end up just going on a much needed date instead. The memorial service is for an old classmate, and her death was tragic and she leaves behind a 5 mo. old. So indeed if we do attend the service I just cannot surprise him today. It would be all wrong. And I know I could keep the secret for another 24 hours because it won't be one-on-one time together. But the chance remains that we may decide not to attend services in which case, we'll still have the baby sitter come. I don't think I can pull off dinner and one-on-one time without telling him. I'd really rather do it as a family. But today is a weird day and I'm going to have to be able to go with the flow. Any ideas on how to do it at dinner? Maybe this morning before work? or should i just try to hide the news until tomorrow so I can do it as a family, though I'm likely to spill the beans if I try?

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planning on going to the service. Will somehow keep it to myself for another day.

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L.A.

answers from Austin on

Good Lord. woman.. your all over the board and I do not know how you are not just spilling the beans right now!! I am so excited for you!

Here is my suggestion.. Drop by the memorial for just a moment to give your sympathy.. Send a card expressing your condolences and share a nice memory of your friend.

Then you and your husband go to a special date night and for goodness sakes tell him!!!!

You can tell the family in the morning. Your marriage is #1 priority..

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K.P.

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Wow. What a crazy combination of things.

Personally, I would go to the memorial service for a short period of time. having had multiple deaths in my immediate family in the last several years, it is actually very comforting to have "unexpected" people show-up to express condolences. I know that sounds strange, but when my nephew died and my colleagues (who didn't know my in-laws at all) drove an hour to be at the wake I was so touched. The same when my FIL passed away and they again drove to be there, despite an even further distance and a rainy night.

I would do something as a family tomorrow. Maybe leave little clues around the house when the kids get home from school and daddy gets home from work! Make the sharing of happy news something the family can celebrate and entirely separate from the loss of a young mother.

CONGRATULATIONS!

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R.M.

answers from San Francisco on

Just do it when it feels right.

J.S.

answers from Hartford on

I wouldn't put so many arbitrary rules in place about when and how you have to tell him. Just tell him when it feels right. There's virtually no wrong time to tell him except during a funeral service or wake.

M.L.

answers from Houston on

I would do it this afternoon, or after the service when you go on your little date. The tragedy is very sad, but no reason to not have some good news shared for your family. But I'm not big into special announcements. For baby number 3, I texted him a pic of the pregnancy test. It was a total shock but a huge fun surprise at the same time.

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