Four Year Old Agressive Behavior..

I am sorry you are going through this, it isn't easy. If he has been kicked out of 3 daycares, then there is something going on. What did they tell you? What did they recommend?

Kids who don't hug or respond when you talk to them and are out of control need help. The professional kind, not the stay at home mom kind unless they have been trained. Have you spoken to your pediatrician? I am surprised that something hasn't been said or brought up before because these are concerning milestones that have been missed.

I would start by talking to your doctor. Then follow his/her lead. It sounds like maybe he is getting too much stimulus and doesn't know what to do with it. So, this could be a Sensory Processing Disorder. Or, it could be more involved like Autism or something similar. I don't want to alarm you, but these are big signs that there is something not neuro-typical.

I wish you the best, and a lot of us on here are in the same or similar boats, so please know that you are not alone!

My son was kicked out of 2 by the time he was 2.

The second place requested he was seen by Early Intervention, during the process of getting him evaluated they kicked him out. We then were able to get some intensive therapy at home thru EI. Turns out he has Adhd & Spd. Do we still have issues? Of Course, but the interventions are helping.

Hi!

I am sorry for these issues...

But if you google 'child find'...you will be able to connect with service in YOUR area for evaluation...and then services...if needed

Sooner is better!!

early intervention can make a WORLD of difference.

best

Contact Headstart in your area and ask about an autisim screening. Look on meetup.com for moms of autistics groups.

There is help out there but you have to find it on your own. Good luck I hope I offered some good ideas for you.

I agree with all the answers you were given. Additionally I would add, be sure you and your husband are on the same page in parenting and are a united front. You both insist on the same standard of behavior and have the same discipline when needed. Also be sure your son sees the two of you as a cohesive unit. When we had 4 and 5 little ones, one of them had sensory processing issues, and one was ADD. They are both grown men now, but what made the biggest difference in their behavior was seeing my husband and I take time for just us. when he came home from work we would sit somewhere and go over the day..both his and mine, and the kids weren't allowed to interrupt. they were put in their rooms if they did. This was a small thing on their part, but reaped big rewards in the behavior department!
Best wishes and I hope you're doing better soon.