Follow up on My Last Question

I don't follow either, but I understand your son is upset he is treating his dad so badly because he doesn't have his, but Jacob wasn't forced to grow up so fast like your son, most kids don't realize this until they are adults, and as far as Jacob's concerned he may feel that your son has more of a dad in his father then he does. It may be upsetting for him to see your son connect with his dad when he feels so lost and alone, I think couceling for both boys would be good. Counceling never hurts and it probably doesn;t help that everyone thinks so badly of him, I'm sure he's picking up on that...i would really watch for him, with everyone thinking so badly of him, and no real connection with anyone in his family I would watch for signs of depression and have him go to counceling, thats a lot to handle for an 11 year old boy, oh and if your son shares a room with him when he visits it should be his room too, your son shouldn't be able to kick him out, it should be his home too, he shouldn't feel like hes a guest in your sons room, that must be horrible to feel like you are a guest in your dads home...

I cannot follow your post, it just doesn't make sense to me. I say to keep trying to get him to open up & spend quality time with his dad. And if his mom doesn't want to get him counseling & you have, then continue with getting him counseling.

I don't really understand what your question is, but keep trying to set up rules/boundaries at your house for when he's with you. As sad as it is, you can't control his situation when he's with his mom, but you can control it when he's at your house. I believe that if you stay strong and consistent with both ample amounts of love and discipline, he will quickly learn the way he needs to act when he's with you and at your house with his dad and step brother. The way he chooses to act when he's with his mom may have to be secondary to how you approach the situation. Hopefully, if he begins to make better choices, it will bleed into other parts of his life, but until then, focus on what you and your husband do/say/act when he's around and forget about everything else.

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