Follow up on My 14 Y/o Is Pregnant

Here here! You be strong! I agree with you on every single point. I can't imagine what you're going through right now, but one thing is clear--you're a GREAT mom! Don't let anyone tell you anything different!

love,
K.

This is a sweet sweet story and every time I read it I tear up. I have a 20 year old and she definitely has an attitude! I never step in to interfere in her life unless she asks. I always try to support her whatever happens. I never had much support when I was growing up but the easiest way for me to deal with the problem I have is to support my family every step of the way. When I hear about a mother offering her unconditional love and support in such a trying time it brings a special warmth to my heart. I am glad to hear that things are going good for you guys.

Wishing you and your daughter the best. You have made a wonderful decision with your daughter, and no one should make you feel badly for it. The baby will obviously be well loved and cared for. There are too many babies born today that come into the world in horrible home situations when the parents ARE adults and not happily married. Kudos for you for standing up for yourself and your decision. xoxo!

K.,

I'm very sorry that I never read your first post. I have a story for you. It's about a very dear friend of mine who got pregnant at 13. We were 8th graders and lived in a very very small town. The baby's father was a Junior in high school, so around 16. My friend, let's call her Brianna, came from a very loving supportive family. She had an older sister and a younger one, but was considered the "star" child by many. She was/is beautiful, smart, athletic, vivacious and basically your all around girl. When we found out she was pregnant, her world shifted dramatically as I'm sure you can imagine. Of course by this time, she was several months along, and had broken up with the baby's father (thankfully--he was/is not a very good person). Brianna's family made the same difficult decision that you and your daughter have made. They kept the baby--we'll call him Joseph. Little Joseph was born five days before we were promoted from the 8th grade into high school. Brianna chose not to walk with us due to engorged breasts and a fear of ridicule I'm sure (remember small town, a ton of gossip--especially since she was the object of much jealousy before getting pregnant!). To make a long story short, Brianna played volleyball, basketball, and softball all four years of high school, graduated with the third highest GPA in our class and has since completed an associated degree in early childhood development. Joseph is an extremely happy, well adjusted young boy. Brianna had a lot of support throughout the years from her mom and dad, and actually lives with them while continuing her education. She is definitely "mom" and her parents are "grandma and grandpa". The father is no longer in the picture (and really never was) but Brianna still keeps in touch with his family as much as she can. Her life is certainly different than it might have been, but if you ask her, it's different for the better. She loves her little man more than anything. I recently asked her if she would do things differently if she could. She replied that although she sometimes wishes she had been older when Joseph was born, well then he wouldn't be Joseph and she would have missed out on knowing the most important person in her life.

K., I know that what you and your daughter are going through must be extremely difficult. She's so young and yet she will soon have adult responsibilities. I can't imagine how much you must hurt for her and her loss of childhood. The only advice I can really offer is to just remember that she still has sooo much of her life ahead of her and one little fork in the road can often take us to place we never dreamed possible. This is not the end of her life, but the beginning of your grandchild's. I applaud your tremendously for the love and support you are giving her now and will continue to give her as she faces the most wonderful, difficult, rewarding time of her life. Good luck and God Bless to all of you!!

A.

Just wanted to add another perspective and some ammunition for you to use against the criticizers--young women have ALWAYS gotten pregnant. It is estimated that between 1/2 and 1/3 Puritan brides were pregnant when they married. Furthermore, you rarely have to dig very deep to find women who got pregnant out of wedlock and were forced to give up their babies (it happened to my grandma and husbands grandma, but we only recently found out because it was so stigmatized). This is stigma and sadness that profoundly affected their lives and the lives of their children (the ones they gave up and the ones they raised afterwards). Women, regardless of their age, must have access to and solid information to birth control AND they must have the right to control their bodies and their reproductive choices. Any parent could find themselves in this situation and you should be commended for supporting your daughter and her decision. She needs you more now than ever.

This baby was meant to be :-) for many reasons ! Your daughter is BEYOND lucky to have the love and support of her family !!! Enjoy your 'turtle time' ~ very sweet... brought tears to my eyes. xoxoxoxoxo

I did not see your first post but I did read this one throughout. I am sorry if you and your daughter were critized for making the decision you made. You can only do what is right for you and you are doing just that.

I think it is amazing for your dayghter to have you with her to have her back, support her unconditionally thorough this pregnancy.

In all honesty, we have a 16 yr old, great kid, never any issues but this topic has come up in conversations between hubby and I. Moms are naive to think it cannot happen to them... unless of course they keep their children under rocks... If our daughter were to come home and say she is pregnant, we would be there to support her and we would also support her decision to keep the baby. We would help her and the baby in any way possible, just like YOU are doing.

You are being a wonderful mom right now. Bless you and keep us posted!!

Bless your heart. Your daughter is one lucky girl for having an understanding and supportive mom. Hang in there!
P.S. Gotta say, I love the phrase "Turtle Time!"

I know you have a ton of responses already, but I wanted to share my story with you...
I'm 24 and I have a 4.5mo boy named Nick. I got pregnant from a one night stand. Even though I am not proud of how he came to be, I am thankful for the tiny blessing sleeping in the crib across the room from me. I still live with my parents, and that is mainly because my mom and I are so close. She had me at 16, and my grandparents gave her a really hard time about it, eventhough they helped her out. When I found out I was pregnant, I was so scared to tell her. SHe never once said she was mad or disappointed. Her first words were "well, ok. What do we do now?" She has always been there for me, but that one line made me feel 100 times better about the situation. We became even closer throughout my pregnancy, especially since the father wasn't involved until the last few months. I don't think anyone could have a stronger bond than my mom and I, but you and your daughter sound like you are headed in the right direction. SHe was my rock through everything, even when I was lying on the c-section table with sky-rocketing blood pressure and a baby that wasn't breathing. I am thinkful for her every day. Its wonderful to hear about a mother/daughter relationship that sounds as strong as ours. I wish you and your family nothing but the best in the world. I'll pray for a safe and easy labor and delivery and a wonderful lifetime with that amazing little "turtle." God Bless.

I am very VERY proud of your family!!!
Great strengths will get you through!!!
I was pregnant at 17 and knowing my mommy and step dad were there for me made the time fly!
My daughter is now 5 and not one day goes by that she doesnt think she is loved. I struggled very hard with her but as I look at it now, no one can take care of her better than I can!!!
I will be thinking of you guys!!!
When is she due?

I think it is awesome you are dealing with this so well! I only pray that if any of my three daughters come home pregnant, I handle it the same way! I know it has been hard on all of you, but your relationship with your daughter is forever changed in the best way possible. You will have the best bond with your granchild, and I guarantee you, that baby already knows how much it is loved! As for the adoption/abortion routes, I understand completely what you mean. I was not married with my oldest, but I knew those two things were not a choice for me. Each and every day since she was born, I know I made the right decision. You and your daughter are in my prayers, and I will pray for a safe delivery with no complications! Best of luck to you!

Hugs to you and your daughter and that precious baby! I just wanted to say enjoy every minute you have with your daughter, take pictures, enjoy each other's presence and start a journal together if you haven't already. Tell her how your feelings-she can share hers etc. I am sorry your mom isn't there for you-go to people who love and respect your family and your family's decision. I think you all made the best choice you could to keep the sweet baby in the family. Best wishes and I hope everything is better with your daughter's kidney infection.

M

I think its great you are supporting your daughter. I have a 14 year old daughter as well. If I were in the same situation, I would probably freak out at first - but I would definitely be just as supportive.
I understand that adoption and abortion are valid choices for some people and I would support anyone I know who would make that decision. But, if it were me, I would probably do the same thing and keep the baby and help out just as you are doing.
I am guilty of watching the show Teen Mom (yes, I am) and I see what some of these teens go through. It is just awful. I know I would never treat my children like that. I would never throw my child out on the street or disown them! Its just awful.

Hi there -
I haven't read your prior post or these responses below, but just wanted to offer my support for you and your daughter. I had a dear friend who, when we were 14 and HS Freshmen, she delivered a beautiful baby girl, and kept her. She went on to become a Class Officer in our High School, and worked as an office manager for a law firm while became certified paralegal in Jr. College, and then , as a Paralegal, worked her way through Undergrad and Law School with her daughter at her side, and only a moderate amount of support from her parents (she went away from home to attend college and law school). We're now almost 31 and her daughter is a beautiful, popular, smart, responsible 15 year old and whose mom is one of the BEST Young Family Lawyers I know (and I know a lot of lawyers!).

Please share this true story with your daughter... =)

I didn't read your earlier post, but I applaud your decision to stand by your daughter. She needs you more than ever and I'm sure things will turn out ok.
I understand about how moms on this site LOVE to blast others with their own opinions and accusing them of being cruel and awful. I've gotten my own share of harsh replies from moms to the point I reported them. It's ludicrious how some of these people love to bash others and act as if they are saints. Don't hesitate to report any mom who gives you harsh replies, now or in the future.
Good luck and all the best to you both!

Hi,

I'm sorry I never read your first post about your daughter. However, I applaud you and your daughter's decision. I think you are wonderful not to turn your back on her when she needs her mommy the most! You get a gold star for being a great mom!!! I have to admit I kind of giggled when you said "Turtle Time" because when my daughters were first born and they would try to pick their heads up my husband and I said they looked like turtles! I bet your grandbaby will have some special turtle time with you and her mama!

All the best to you and your family!

Hugs!

I didn't see your last post...but you sound like a wonderful mother! With you supporting her this isn't the end of her life just a bump in the road! It will be hard of course but God is Good and you'll be just fine. My prayers to you and yours! Being a Grandma has got to be exciting! Even if it isn't the perfect life situation.

its not whether an answer is right for someone else, its whether the answer is right for you. you gotta remember, in your mothers time, young, unwed mothers were sent away to have their babies, and then , maybe, sent to live with other family members once the baby was born and adopted out.babies change your life, not just your waistline. if she is not on medicaid and wic, you need to get, find and fill out the paperwork soon. because obgyn appointments start at about 2 grand, and thats just to have the secretary meet you at the door. tell her you arent pregnant forever, it just feels that way. i was never so happy to see my feet in my life, the first time i didnt need a mirror to look at my toes, after my baby was born.shop around for a good obgyn, if the doctor is rude, horribly late, arrogant or dismissive, say thanks, but no thanks, and find another one.also, google the doctor before signing anything, and check out his credentials
K. h.

Wow, you additude and big heart warm mine :) You are a very wise woman and your post was well written. You don't know until your in the position what you will do in situations like this and the worst thing is judgement from people who haven't been there. Your and your daughters decisions are "Yours". It is nice to hear opinions and advice from all corners because just as you said, it gets you to think outside of the box. I wish you luck and hope even though the road may be bumpy, it is worth the ride :)

Please keep us informed. You and your daughter and soon to be grandchild- will be in my thoughts and prayers. You seem like you are doing what is best and I hope God blesses you and your family beyond what you could ever imagine.

I'm happy to read everything's going better!
you'll see that things will come around, always remember that this child is a bless and even if the time is not "right" for you, God knows better....
so love her, and love your daughter....your mom will come to her senses...give her time, she raised you, a great mom, so she must be one 2!
btw, always remember you have a lot of non judging counselars, friends, and shoulders here!!

Sounds like your DD has a great example of how to be a wonderful, loving mother! Good for you for turning this unideal situation into a positive bonding opportunity for you two!

Anyone who blasted you with negative thoughts and judgement are plainly ignorant. People always tend to give their opinions when all was needed was an advice. I applauded you for everything you've done with your daughter, it might not be right time for her to completely understand the sacrifices and love you gave her, but later in her life, she will look back in this and say: Mom, I will never be half as you as a woman, you showed me that when I was at that moment when all I need was an acceptance and love, you gave me more than that, for that I will be grateful forever"
Keep it up and continue to guide her to be the mother she will be because of the example you showed her... God Bless.

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Anyone who blasted you with negative thoughts and judgement are plainly ignorant. People always tend to give their opinions when all was needed was an advice. I applauded you for everything you've done with your daughter, it might not be right time for her to completely understand the sacrifices and love you gave her, but later in her life, she will look back in this and say: Mom, I will never be half as you as a woman, you showed me that when I was at that moment when all I need was an acceptance and love, you gave me more than that, for that I will be grateful forever"
Keep it up and continue to guide her to be the mother she will be because of the example you showed her... God Bless.

You are a blessing and your compassion shows in every way! We all go through circumstances whether good or bad and I applaude you for sticking by your daughter, God knows your heart and it shows how much love you have to give to others. Good to see that you are a proud Grandma to be and still supporting your daugther during this time, she learn what it is to be a young Mom and as long as there is support within the family, you will see the blessings that will come out of this. It's so easy to give up on someone let alone a family member because of a mistake or mistakes they have done but it doesn't make them a bad person, we all live and learn and by the Grace of God he will still love us all unconditionally. Many blessing to you & may God be with you always!

Unconditional love is what your daughter needs now and she will, in turn,
be able to give it to her own child. Often times, we mothers do
everything we can for our children, but this is a time to let her do most of the "mothering" of her baby and she will grow up quick. I've seen it happen more than once to a child that never took full responsibility for her first child, just to repeat. It is too bad that you've had to defend your decision to support and love your child. It is exactly what we've signed up for,
no matter what. Way to go Mom!

Eventhough I don't know you or your daughter personally, I am so proud of your decision to support your daughter. I feel as though the world would be a much better place if family stuck together. Continue to encourage your daughter to continue her education, let her know any and everything is possible with the grace of GOD and your support. Life is so short and unexpected enjoy you"TURTLE TIME". I will keep your family in y prayers...XOXOXO

We just found out my 16 year old sister is pregnant with a boy she has only known for 6 months! THree of us (siblings) are grown, married with children, and there is one sister younger then her. It is done, can't change it, we are embracing it. DOes is suck for her, sure, she will not get all the experiences that she would have without a baby, she will get new experiences. My mom had me when she was 16, I am 32 and we are best friends. SOme people think we are crazy but how can you get angry at a life! Prayers to you and yours! SOunds like Rosalie is blessed to be born!

I think your entire family is amazing.
I just found out my cousin is about to be a grandpa at 34. He got his girlfriend pregnant at 16, and, his son followed in his footsteps.
I got pregnant at 20. I would have never, ever grown up to be the mom I needed to be without my parents. That is where I was coming from on my last advice I gave when you first posted about this. My parents helped me by letting me stay with them. I stayed until my daughter was 18 months old. Now, I was older, so, getting a good job was a bit easier for me than it will be for your daughter. Plus, I had 3 years of college under my belt.
But, with your help, she will be able to finish school and do what she needs to do. I learned what I needed to know, because my parents made me do it. They told me from day one that they would not be my built-in babysitter so that I could finish my partying. I was a mom, and I needed to be a mom.
Now, I can still remember my Dad coming in there to give my daughter a bottle in the middle of the night. I was feeding her, but, he could tell I was exhausted. He looked at me, took her, and said, "you can't do everything alone. You are doing a great job. Go back to bed and I will get her back to sleep." I told him I had it, but, he insisted. It was almost like they saw me growing up, and, were ready to lend a hand. I was working full time, taking her to daycare, picking her up, doing everything I physically could to prove myself to them. They wanted me to, so, I had to. I knew they were there for me, but not so that I could go play, so that they could help me be the mom I needed to be for my daughter.

Keep it up. Everything will be fine. God Bless your family. :)

Hi K., It is me...coming in late again. So your mother is not supportive. She doesn't have to be, you have your own family to turn to and deal with things. I know it would be wonderful to have her support, but, I am sure her avoidance is based on her opinion. She doesn't have to like this.

I didn't know this about my family until recently this year. I knew my Aunt had a son that was given up for adoption when she was a teen. My Grandmother made her give him up. He came to our family reunion as a near 50 year adult and we all had the opportunity to meet him and his Mother. I tried to keep in contact with him, but he never responded. I am not sure if it is a guy thing or if he just wanted to be left alone. So I left him alone and haven't heard any more from him. The recent thing that I heard, was that my Aunt had a son before him and they allowed her to keep that one and he drown in the river when he was very young. My mother doesn't offer much information, but I can't understand why she was allowed to keep one and not the other. It is all part of our families dark secrets, as they try to pull the perfect card.

In my opinion, if your mother is only going to offer her opinion, it may not be the support you need. So give her time and space and perhaps when Rosalie Faith arrives, some positive support will come from this. If not, I can tell you are a strong lady and you will get through all of this.

I remember your original post (and I responded)....I was shocked at a few of the negative judgmental people.....One in particular that asked how she got pregnant, and claimed her 15 would never have sex b/c she knows where she is at all times....how clueless is she??
I totally agree that this could happen to anyone's family.
Good luck, it sounds like baby Rosalie will be in good hands.

i think you guys will do well with ur decision to keep the baby. u need to b strong and help guid her 2 b a good mom and not let her have u "mommy" the kids (/c she will want 2 when it gets hard). u need 2 b strong for the best of ur DD and grandbaby. make sure she always remembers u r here to support her and not replace her...that she will prob miss a lot of "teenage" things that her friends are doing (dances, prom ect) but that's the same thing that what happens to adults when they have friends w/out babies (when they going out ect...and you can't b/c u can't afford a sitter ect.) it's just part of being a mom.

ur an awesome mom!

Sometimes we are more of what we wish for ourselves. Thankfully, it seems that is what you are able to do for your daughter, be an amazingly loving and supportive mother. I am sorry you do not have the support you wish and I am glad you can reach out and find more support in other places.
I have an 11 year old girl. It scares me to think of something like this happening to her. I hope that we have a strong enough relationship that, whatever our hardships will be, we can still find the unconditional love you so freely give. Thank you for the reminder.
A.

Wow, thanks so much for writing this. It blessed my heart.

I know that the *right* way to handle a situation like yours is relative to every person's circumstance. But if I were in your shoes, I would do exactly what you are. And I wanted to tell you that *you* are a true *blessing* to both your daughter, and to your grandbaby. If I ever find myself in your situation - YES, it can happen to ANYONE - I pray that I will handle myself with as much grace and strength as you have.

God bless you all on this journey. And may you all weather any storms with determination and courage, and may you reap all the joys this new life will surely bring to you all. God bless.

You are your daughter’s angel. I know plenty of mothers (including mine) that do not offer any support whatsoever. Sometimes she just needs a hug, she is very lucky to have a loving understanding mother like you. You and your family faced this situation heart first, and after the shock and “where do I go wrong” worn off, you never second guessed your parenting. Mothers of younger children (of all age children) can sit back and say, not my child. Well guess what-no matter what us mothers and fathers say-children will do what they want. You cannot judge a parent until you are in that situation yourself. As I always told my children “The mistakes you make now will affect your lives forever.” Did that change their behavior, nope; they get caught up in the moment and do not think of the consequences.

I have a almost 13 year old girl, and I can't (or want) to imagine her getting pregnant so young, but I know I would support her and love her any less.
What is done is done and we can make every experience in our lives a good learning experience.
I agree with one of the moms that advice to not take the roll of mom, I am sure it will not be easy to see both of them struggle but it is important for all in your family (not just your daughter and you).
I am glad she is studding, having kids doesn't make impossible to keep studding, it does make it a lot more harder but youth is amazing (I remember being able to barely sleep and still able to go school) I can barely make it to 1am now, lol.
About the baby shower, oh yeah! I would totally do it, one day this little baby girl will want to see pictures of her past, why would her birth would not be as welcome as of her siblings?
At 14 many of her friends may not have as much money for lots of things but even a cute shirt would be nice. Let it up to people to come or not but you and your daughter should celebrate this wonderful time.

I read your orginal post and can't recall anything that I found wrong with it. I have seen other women do what you're doing now which is to address the negative replies. My question is, why do we have to be so negative when someone is dealing with a tough situation and they are asking for help/advice????

Wow....

I want to commend you! What a great mom, and soon to be g'mom! My sister was 16 when she had my neice (16 years ago!). Basically the same situation, they found out I think she was 5 mths along, and as upset as they were at her, they NEVER turned their backs on her....
Many prayers for a healthy delivery!! Hugs!!!

My mom actually lost her best friend since elementary school, bc adoption or abortion was right for our family either!!

Can i say GOOD FOR YOU!!! for sticking together and loving your daughter thru good times and rough times. she needs that. this is something that many, many girls go thru. when i was in middle school in 7th grade i knew a girl who had her first child, in 9th she had her 2nd. in 12th she had her 3rd. her mother told her in 7th grade that she was not going to give the baby up and that she was not going to get an abortion. told her she had to be responsible for her actions. the mother did help her out, but the daughter did what was supposed to be done for her and her family. i knew another girl who had a baby at 14. the baby is now 16 going on 17. the mother had support from family and she went and finished high school and college and has taken care of the baby monetarily since she was able to when she was 16 before that the babies dad took care financially. i think its a very hard situation you face, but no more so than having a child that is older who doesn't have a job, and is still in highschool or in college. things work themselves out the way they are supposed to. and just think how involved you will be able to be with the baby.

K.:

I wanted to thank you for updating us on your daughter and also clarifying your opinion on adoption. I wrote earlier that though I would definitely do what you are doing (supporting your daughter) that I felt passionately about adoption (NOT encouraging you to have your daughter do it but since I am adopted the line in your other post about a family sticking together 'stuck' to me wrong (got to admit I am a little sensitive to it).

Good luck to you and your family. Stay strong. Your mother may come around eventually. Give her time to digest this situation; remember she is about to become a great grandmother.

Thank you for the update. I hope the rest of the pregnancy goes smoother. I applaude you for sticking to your child in her time of great need. I would do the same for my daughter. Good luck !!!

Im a 28 year old mom i have a 19 month old baby boy, just wanted to tell you you are an awesome mom and you daughter is very lucky to have you, i think your doing the right thing 100%. Me and my mom have had our differences and she wont talk to me so i know how you feel about you mom i feel one day they will wake up and regret there actions. Good luck to you and your family and God Bless the new little addition to your family, they change our lives forever!!

Keep us further updated, i hardly ever think of a question after its been days, but yours i wonder about all the time.

Did you decide to have a baby shower?- I hope you did

and turtle time......thats adorable

God bless you and your daughter and your decision , which i believe was the right one.

WOW. What a wonderful post you have written. I do remember your original post, and thank God I was not mean in my reply :)
That said. I think your daughter should count her blessing for having such a wonderful mama. I am with you. This child is coming into a family filled with love. That's something to celebrate.
Good luck, doll.
L.

Best of luck to you! What a wonderful result to such a challenge. The mother daughter relationship is so powerful. My own mom died when I was 30 and I miss her so much. I'm so glad you reclaimed your closeness and wish you all the best.
PS - I bet some have already suggested to you that a side blessing is that your daughter will never have to go through primary infertility! AS someone who struggled in my 30's to get pregnant, in my darker hours I sometimes wished that I'd had an oops in my HS or college years! Thankfully I am now blessed with children.

Bless your soul. You are already teaching her to be a great parent by how you parent. I would be doing the same as you, always being there for your child means always being there no matter what. Who knows what the futures holds but I bet it will all be blessed. My thoughts are with you I hope all goes well during her preg.

Blessings to your family.

K.:

I was a teen Mom who, before getting pregnant, was a 16 year old high school drop out going down a seriously perilous path. After finding out I was pregnant, I enrolled back in school, had my baby, and was able to complete my B.A in less than 3 years. For me, bringing my son into the world was the best choice I ever made.

Most people (except for my parents) pushed me to get an abortion ("look at where you are at in your life/ it will ruin your life/you'll never go to college/you'll be on welfare/"and so on, ad nauseum) but I absolutely refused to even consider it; I was taking responsibility for my choices and continued my pregnancy, deciding to change MYSELF as opposed to terminating the "products of conception" (yep, that's what they called my son). My son, who is now almost 19, was a 3.8 student through high-school and is now attending a top college. I am married with two other beautiful children and have a very successful business and a product which is gaining national recognition. So much for "the chance that I may never amount to anything" and having a child "doomed to a life of despair" (these are exact quotes that I wrote down after finding out I was pregnant and had a "counselor" try to sell me an abortion at the clinic..she tried to soften these statements by calling me "honey", but her comments were unbelievably insensitive and pushy).

I, too, had a thyroid condition that went untreated until recently...don't worry, you are aware of it and treating it, so everything should be okay. As for teen Moms having premature babies, well, in my own case he was a week late and 9 lbs 2 oz (and I was only 110 lbs when I got pregnant)! :)

You sound like an incredible Mom, and bless your heart for giving your dd the support she needs and deserves. Please don't let the negative people get to you..we all have the ability to bring positivity from what others consider "less than ideal" situations. If you would ever like to speak with me, please feel free to PM me and I will give you my number.
Here is a ((hug))from me, Grandma...take care. :)

love the name your DD has picked for her baby! Very nice and a mature choice.

I never saw your first post!

I can't imagine the ups and downs you are going through!!

No matter what - i would NEVER disown my children. I may be disappointed in their acts - but NEVER disown them.

your daughter has a lot of growing up to do! And she's being forced into it by this situation. We'd all love to believe that our kids won't do that - but when the media and friends are pushing things all over the place - it's hard NOT to get caught up in it - especially with publications like People basically glamorizing teenage pregnancy!

My thoughts and prayers go out to you and yours. it is not for me to judge your situation. what if your daughter had been raped? that's not our business!! I hope the father of the baby is manning-up as well and taking responsibility for his part in this as well. It won't be easy.

may God Bless and keep you!!

Hang in there! There are no instructions for this:) I'm sure you're doing the best for yourself, your daughter, and granddaughter. I said in an earlier post that I would not have gone down the route of abortion or adoption either (my kids are 5, 2, and 6 mo, so I wouldn't have to make that decision for a while). I think the baby should stay with the family if there is any possible way.

What an awesome mom you are! Hope everything goes well with her and the baby.

Your daughter is lucky to have you. I hope she will be just as supportive to her child. I hope she is reading up a lot on motherhood, and that you are able to allow her to be the mom and you stay back and be the grandma. She's only 14 so that's the hardest part. It will probably be fun for both of you.... one that little bundle is here lots more changes will occur. Your daughter wont be a baby anymore :)
I wish this site would have been around long ago. I'm sure we will all be here to help you through all that you are about to face.

Good to hear things are better. I wanted to comment on your Momma not being there...she probably has no idea what to say, what to ask or how to listen. Im sure there is a past, but maybe reaching out to her can ease the akwardness of the situation.

What a lucky girl your daughter is to have a mom like you. No matter what the circumstances, a baby is a blessing from God. And I love "Turtle Time" :)