What makes sex good?
I know it's a very personal thing, and probably somewhat different for each of us, but there are surely universals.
So what makes it good for you?
And in interesting flipside to this (hubby and I have been chatting about this since I posted my last question)... what makes it good for your husband/significant other? It's not the same for them at all, is it?
Just making conversation and helping us to evaluate something that we might take for granted without giving it much thought...
ETA: I have to say, my husband and I are really open when it comes to talking about sex with one another... but for some reason, these 2 questions today have sparked some really good conversation with my husband about how we view our sex lives, and about what we desire to make it even more satisfying... really good topic today, for my marriage, at least! :)
Jo, was it a kidney? I thought she claimed your liver? LOL
And I'm sorry, Scarlett, but you did not state that disclaimer in your original request for the kidney. LOL (And LOL at Jo's "she probably printed the page... " :)
You ladies kill me.
I agree with scarlett too. Im no acrobat (well not anymore anyways) so just regular old sex is good for me. I hate how my husband kisses so im not one to really jump in to that but as long as we both finish and there no cramps we are good :) gosh I sound like a 100 yr old lady :(
Lots of passionate kissing and "non kissing" = close breathing, sharing each others' breath, being close and intimate.
Holding hands during
Touching other parts - ie face to face, lips to ears, etc.
Lots of orgasms - it is common for me to have multiple - but just one is good too!
I can have a 10 with my hubby every time and only do it once a month and it is still a 10! Real life gets in the way of frequency, that doesn't make the session itself any less! (We avg about once a week, give or take).
When I know he is SUPER satisfied. When we are both done, panting, and just smiling and laughing. So fun!!
We are both VERY open with each other. We can talk about absolutely anything, and neither of us feel inhibited. It is amazing.
Addition: The session can be 5 minutes or 45 minutes, and can contain some or all of the above! Still great, every time.
ETA: Yep, kidney is mine. But I reserve the right to change that with adequate notice.
***It is a binding contract, ladies!!!
A mutual pleasure from pleasing.
I'm with Scarlet on this one
For both me and my husband good sex starts outside the bedroom and carries over. We treat one another well-- with love and respect-- and can talk honestly about anything. It also has to do with sharing the responsibilities of the children and household needs. So, again, I rate a 10.
That is tough to answer!!
Sometimes, for me anyway, a quicky can be just as good as a long love-making session. It depends on our moods as to what kind of sex we are going to be having. If that makes any sense....
So I would have to say that what makes it "good" for both of us is that complete look of satisfaction/love/adoration in each other's eyes when we are done :)
I love these questions hehe
i love all of it. The times during the day when we sneak "sexy touches" so the kids won't see.
Little teasing throughout the day.
My husband kisses like james bond...lol Ya know how in those movies Bond grabs the woman with some roughness and kisses her really hard and she seems to melt?? THAT my husband does that and I still get weak in the knees.
The fact that we just want to please each other. Sometimes its me doing extra things to get him really excited, others its the other way around.
The times where, for the whole day, we are teasing eachother with little kisses, touches, sexy talk etc. So that when the kids are finally in bed it is an all out sex war lmao
Ya know, I just love him so much, everything about him and that makes the intimacy that much better. We are so much a like, attitude wise, that it can be a very passionate time, or we can be making each other laugh in the middle of it. Sometimes both haha
Feeling connected. Feeling connected to myself and my sexual partner.
The sex itself can look all sorts of different.
Good sex, for me, is when I am absolutely in my body, absolutely in the present moment, and when I have found rhythm and unity with my partner.
Vanilla, dirty...doesn't really matter. I just have to feel open.
when he's done.... hahahah j/k
What makes it good, is really hard to put into words!
Seriously I am putting you with Scarlett with would you rather have an organ cause that is easier. :p
I guess to put it simply what makes it good is that we are on the same page. We are not there out of some married obligation, we are not there because we haven't had any in two weeks, months, years......we are not there because we want it, we are there because we want it and the other wants it as well. We are both there to give the other one pleasure not what we want. The cool thing about both wanting to please the other and it is amazing sex! :)
You can still have the organ if you like but I think Scarlett claimed a kidney.
I don't remember but I am sure she printed the page in case the need arises. :p
OHHH I want to know your rating and answer to this=)
not in any order
What makes it good to M. is a few things
1. Passion
2. Kissing
3. I whole heartedly disagree that quanity doesn't matter, while I agree it's not the most impt, if you're a 10 and only doing it once a month, obviously its not a 10 or you'd find the time! Because when it's a 10 its so mindblowing that you'd beg steal and cheat to find some extra time, instead of tv=)
4. teasing
5. touching throughout the day
6. I love when he pulls M. close and tells M. to look at him and says I love you, adn asks M. to kiss him like i mean it during! thats my favorite
7. the ending=)!!!!
Its good for me when I can make my wife smile at least twice, and especially when she looses control and makes noises in her throat.
When she is really relaxed with me and is interested in me.
TMI, so no more info.
Good luck to you and yours.
Good question....
One thing that is really important for me is spontaneity.
One of my friends used to tell me that he and his wife had a scheduled sex night. The reason for it was busy schedule and kids. I just thought of that as really sad. He and his wife lived in the same house and had less sex then me and my boyfriend, who at the time, lived 400 miles away from me.
So it's important for me to keep it spontaneous just like when we dated. I don't let life get in the way. If I lose 20 minutes of sleep for a quickie....oh well. I would rather be tired and happy, then rested and sexually frusterated!
=)
