Five Year Old That Cannot Behave in Pre K

Have you discussed this with the school councelor? I had issues with my son in pre-k, and me and the councelor did some meetings, adn we got together with the teacher and principle to come up a system for at home and at school. The school should be working with you.

Also one thing I learned is try to not punish him at home for school stuff, especialy at such a young age. School problems at that age should be done at school, rewarding for good behavior works much better at that age. If you are heavy on the punishment on school issues at such a young age, you can be setting him up to have a negative feeling about school that will be really hard to shake as he gets older. You want him to have positive experiences in pre-k and early years.

Good luckI know it is not easy.

K.,

I had the some problem with my now 6 year old. He is doing great. One of the main problems was his diet. We found out he had a lot of food allergies, and It was making him ADHD . He is allergic to any foods with blue or red dye. Also Dairy, as well as most things at McDonalds (how they are prepared) it is changing the diet of my family but it is for the best. (also your child could be allergic to wheat). We also found since he was a young 5, all the other kids were older so he was not a mature 5 in kindergarten. His attention span was short. If your child is born after june then it could just be his maturity level. I really hope this helps.
M. M

Did he just start school or has he been going since last fall? If he just started.......This probably won't be a popular answer, but ...does he have to go to school yet? Maybe he is just too immature and not ready to start school. If he has to because of work then of course you have to deal with it, but if not.....I am not against ADD meds, but I think they should be a last resort.

Hello K.,

My name is G. and my son now 7 made my husband and I see our luck. We had him expelled from two childcares and in kinder he kicked the vice-principle several times. We thought this was life for us. We were actually told that he was ADHD and had mild autism. Well all those diagnoses were all wrong. The only thing my child had was that he was very immature for his age, but very smart. He also had a problem with detaching from me. I would give it another 1 ½ years and I am almost sure he will out grow his problem. Do not give him any negative attention. They are so smart that they know how to manipulate us and if it is with negative attention that is what they will use. Give him a lot of love, but you must me firm and keep your word every time.

Something that helped us was getting my son into recreational activities, such as soccer, basketball, swimming, etc. They have so much energy they need to have a place to use most of it. If there is something he really likes make it become a prize he could earn. For example, my son was obsessed with video games and we made a calendar with behavior and things he needed to do and he would earn 2 minutes for every section he would do without me telling him or arguing about and this was per day. At the end of the week we add up all the minutes and that is the time he would play. I would not give no less or more time just what he earned, this really helped. This year my son is in 1st grade and he has probably brought home maybe 3 somewhat bad days in his folder the entire year. He is an over achiever academically, which makes us very proud and happy. We also learned that praising him has helped him a lot; of course we make it clear that he can not be extremely prideful of himself. Although he learned what we expect from him and he always wants to please us. We also read bible stories to him who has been good because he loves God and always wants to please him as well.

Good luck. Just hang in there in no time you will look back and think I can’t believe that use to be my child. Have a blessed day.

If you can afford it, put him school for a longer period of time or full time if possible. More consistantcy with school and the structure it has may help. How long of you and your husband been separated? Maybe he is still trying to get adjusted to that. Good luck.

Hi K.,
Have you checked to see if there is a problem with his hearing, seriously. My grandson went thru this same thing during the time he had double ear infections that eventually resulted in tubes and surgery. Just a thought to check this out. R.

I would have him evaluated for ADHD and have that treated if it's an issue - then if there's further problems with the teacher, I'd have his class switched. Have you noticed a change in his behavior since Christmas break? Ha anything else changed in his life?

Good Luck
S.

I know that he is still young, but you may want to talk to your doctor about ADD/ADHD. The only reason I say that is that there was a boy in my son's kinder-readiness class that could not behave. It got to the point that he was sent home almost every day. The school pushed the issue of having him tested. The parents were VERY suprised when the doctor told them he was severe ADHD.

Now, they treated him with medicine and the teacher said he was a different child. I'm not saying that your son needs to be medicated, but you also need to be aware of what you are dealing with so the testing would be beneficial either way!!

Good luck!!

K.,
A couple of things come to my mind: Is he bored? Has there been a conflict with his teacher?

I learned with my children either at home or in school, boredom would often lead to trouble. I wonder if the teacher is engaging your son. Perhaps she could even enlist his "help" in some things. Sometimes when a child as a task to do this limits the trouble. Has he made a friend with a child who is struggling with this type of behavior? This could impact the way your son acts in class as well.

One of my children felt mistreated by an early elementary teacher and this child acted up ALL the time in the classroom. In retrospect I think I should have insisted on my child to be moved to a different class room.

Good luck!
C.