First Day at Daycare Was Tragic, Help!

Updated on August 23, 2007
L.H. asks from San Antonio, TX
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My 18 mon. son first day of daycare was horrible. He was only there for 2 hours and cried the whole time. The caregiver refused to comfort him during snack time because she wanted to teach him to stay in his seat. I felt this guidance on his first day was very cold. Am I over-reacting? We are considering looking for a different center. We live in Stone Oak area, any feedback on Rainbow Station, Primrose, or Abiding Presense Lutheran Center? Does anyone know of a center that has a reputation for being very nurturing while staying consistant. Thanks

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So What Happened?

Thank you so much for your thoughtful responses. I talked with the caregiver, and she suggested I stay with my son for a while in the room until he adjusts. I can tell the center is modifying their policy a little, but it made for such a wonderful experience today in daycare. Like night and day compared to the first day. I will continue to keep open communication with the caregivers, and hopefully the transition will not be such a nightmare for me and my son. Thanks Again! =)

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D.O.

answers from San Antonio on

So sorry to hear about your baby's experience. That age is tough, I remember when I took my then-18 mo. old to a Mom's day out thing, one time a week. She cried every time, it was terrible. But she got over it, eventually.
For your situation, I would keep an eye on the situation. My Mom's day out thing was at a place I had already taken my older daughter, and loved the people. Talk to the people at the center and try to get more info. Hopefully they will tell you that they will try different things if what they tried on day one doesn't work, etc.
My now 6 year old DD went to Primrose (on Knights Crossing @ Stone Oak) for Pre-Kinder, so I don't know if my feedback can help you, but I thought it was a good place. It better be for those prices! Hope this helps, somehow. Hang in there!

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S.S.

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I think your son is going to cry for sometime couple weeks atleast and then they sulk for before when you drop them off and will fine in few minutes 'cause the place and the people are new. But its very heart wrenching for moms. I would talk to the caregiver and also the director of the place and ask them to give your son sometime to adjust by giving a little more attention. These places make it very hard for the caregivers too 'cause there are so many kids that they have to watch. I still don't know how they manage :)
My girls had a very hard to adjust and it took them atleast 3 weeks to get over with also falling sick the first couple of weeks. I was so furious too :)
So give a week's or 2 week's time and I have to say its going to be hard for you and your son. But keep asking the people to give more attention for couple weeks. And if they totally ignore you then you would have to look for another place.
I hope everything works out. Good Luck

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E.J.

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My son goes to Central Christian here downtown and I believe they opened a second branch in your area! They are great, caring nurturing people! I would HIGHLy recommend them and I heard about them from a few of my co-workers who have had kids there for years!

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A.S.

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Did you approach the caregiver? Tell her that in your home you console a crying child and that you want him to have that at the center. If she still feels the same way about him crying then pull him out. this is just my opinion.

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S.D.

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Hi L. H! I don't think you're overreacting at all. He's already 18 months old and just now going to day care! He needs comfort from his new teacher and he has to feel like he can trust her/him. I truly believe that kids have to trust their caregiver and then they can easily transition. S. D.

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R.

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My daughter attended Rainbow Station and loved it and my 3 year old is going in the fall. They were older than yours, but the staff there are really nice and nurturing. The little ones always look so happy and well cared for. Hope this helps.

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