Reading your words almost descibes my life! You have alot of good advice here. I have two girls, a 28 month old and a 8 month old, both are healthy and happy (unlike me). My husband is the same way as yours, little patience with the girls and would rather go do his own thing (like ride his motorcycle). He works a second job so he won't have to take care of the girls while I work. We tried daycare before, but it's just too much hastle with getting them in and keeping them there. I'd have to leave work for one reason or another and pick them up because they couln't stay and I'd still have to pay for the days/weeks they weren't there.
I didn't have problems with my first, but my second was another story. It wasn't until the last month, but she decided to turn breach within the last week. I had to be monitored, but she did turn back, and I avoided a section. Also, I was borderline gestational diabetic and put on a diet. I had to prick my finger 3 times a day until induction. I went into labor the night before and avoided that fun too.
Over the next few months I got a periodic stabbing pain in my back. It would only last a few hours, so I thought nothing of it at first. Then, I had a week where in went into the ER four times in a row. Each time the pain was worse and a different diagnosis. Finally, on the last night, I was doubled over in pain and nothing was helping so, they scheduled me for an ultrasound. They found out I had a really sick gall bladder and, since I hadn't had anything to eat, prepped me for surgery. I was scared, didn't know what to expect, and I hadn't seen my girls since the night before. I've had a few side effects from the removal, but they're slowly working themselves out. I even joined a health club!
Your stomach and chest pains may be a form of acid reflux from not having your gall bladder. The excessive urinating my be an overactive bladder type problem but, as others have said, not your prostate because you're a woman. If you're seen at Eglin, maybe you need to change doctors or your group. I used to be family health, but I changed over to family medicine. They seem to be a little more informed and actually listen to what I say.
It also sounds like you need a break, at least once a day for at least an hour. I get mine when I work out! :) Also, check in with the family support groups on base. Just having someone to talk to at least once a week, like I do, can help out alot. It gives you the chance to gets things/worries off your chest and get some one on one advice in return. They love seeing the little ones too!
You may also want to look into getting a will done in case of an accidental death. You can specify who you want your children to go to and it'll ease your mind. I'm not real fond of my in-laws either, but neither one of my parents have the time or the room.
Most of all, keep praying and cherish every moment you have with your little ones! God Bless!