Father's Day Gift - Something Nice or Keep It Even?

Well I kinda think you should just buy the iPad as a family gift and go low key for FD. I'm not one to want or make a huge deal for Mother's Day and Father's Day but I do enjoy being a family and doing something fun. I also enjoy not having to change one diaper that day, but that doesn't always happen either! ;) For $100 it's worth just snatching it up and using it for everyone especially since summer is here and you may be traveling more.

Is there a birthday coming up? (Like maybe yours?) Buy the ipad and hold it back for a birthday. Keep Father's Day low-keyed. I really think that two years of him ignoring your Mother's Day for the most part makes it ridiculous for you to go all out for Father's Day.

Other's will disagree that you shouldn't think of things as even. But there are too many other things that men drop the ball on in regards to what their wives do for them.

I really mean this.

Dawn

Don't do anything you will resent. WHy not just do a small Fathers Day, then buy yourself an Ipad. Or buy it as a "Family Gift."

What is the point in being "even"? If you have resolved your feelings, you shouldn't be thinking about getting even.

We are not big bday, Christmas, MD, FD celebrators at our house. Of course special days are acknowledged but if we want or need something during the year, we don't wait on the commercialized Hallmark day to do something.

I would focus on your family. We tend to do something simple and fun and together. That is the point... being together.

If you do want a big deal made of your day, then make sure you communicate that so there are no surprises... that way you are not resentful, hubby and others are not caught off guard because they know you want to do it big!

If you can afford the IPad, I think it would be a great family gift. You don't have to justify every purchase as some sort of gift.

It is not productive to keep tit for tat in relationships. It usually tends to even out over the years.

Best wishes to you.

Well, we do the same things each year for the holiday's so no one is disappointed and one doesn't get "more" than the other. When is his bday? If it were me, I would keep FD the same level you had as MD and buy the iPad and keep it in the closet until its his bday or even xmas. These things should not be tit for tat, men generally are not on the same level as us so you need to really spell it out for him. But I would just tell him what you will do for each of the holidays so there are no disappointments. Good luck!

I would consider getting him the I-Pad and then planning Mother's Day yourself. I know it's not the same as if he planned it, but it sure would be nice to let Mother's Day really be your day.

something nice.
scorecards are not good for relationships.
khairete
S.

I say buy the iPad for yourself. It will be great to have something for the boys to play with (or fight over) for the summer. Then have the boys make something nice for your husband for Father's Day. Maybe you can take him out to a nice dinner.

Good luck! My husband's b-day is 11 days before mine. I also get annoyed when I go all out to make it a special day for him (big party, big meal, nice gift), and my special day consists of sleeping in (maybe) and buying my own damn gift ;-)

Save the Ipad for his b-day or Christmas.

I think that the majority of men just kind of suck at thinking ahead & planning out cute projects they can help their little ones with to give to mommy for Mother's Day.

Please don't keep score. Keeping score is for baseball, not relationships.

Get the I pad but keep it for a different occasion.

We don't really exchange gifts, as we tend to get what we need/want when we need it.. Ex, I got nothing for christmas & my birthday but before my vacation I got a kindle. I love it and use it often.

I'm chiming in a bit late but I just wanted to add my two cents.
The only things I ever asked for on Mother's Day were:
1) for my husband to CALL HIS MOTHER
and
2) that I get the day OFF. No cooking, cleaning, shopping, and if I want to go work out and get my nails done then I'm doing it!
Once my kids started preschool they came home with wonderful "presents" and that was more than enough for me. I can't imagine expecting my very macho, businessman hubby sitting down and leading a toddler in a craft project, lol!
I give him the same thing for Father's Day, a day of rest, a day to HIMSELF, and the kids do whatever they might like to do, be it a present, a meal or just a card and/or drawing :)

Well gee, my Mother's Day was not anything much.
Hubby and I had a fight. All weekend was just an Iceberg of cold.
I didn't get anything.
My kids did make things for me in school.
And I had a nice day, with them. Sans Hubby.

For Father's Day, I will do something for him. But certainly within my budget.
He is a good Dad and loves his family even if he is a turd, sometimes.

About the iPad. If you get it for your Husband, he will think it is *His.*
But you said it would be a nice for the whole family to enjoy.
So the question is: IF you get it for your Husband, will he even be the type, that will SHARE it... with the family/you/the kids????