Father Breaking Agreement

I know just how you feel. My husband and I had battled with the mother of his child for years! I think we're finally getting to the point where everything is not a battle, but only time will tell. My stepson is now 9 years old. This battle had been going on since he was around 1 year old. So as you can see, much time has gone by and we've been to court many times trying to get things under control. It's just not fair to the poor kids involved and it's unfortunate that things like this have to happen. I will pray for you and your family and hope that the situation improves soon. I know just how frustrated you must feel!

Hi R.,

I am so sorry that you have to go through this. It is awful when parents don't live up to what they have agreed to do with regards to their kids. The only people who loose in these situations is the kids. That being said, I would first try to see if dad is willing to meet you half way - yes you are going of your way to do this but in doing so maybe you will be able to get your son back without a battle. What do your divorce papers so, if he is responsible to return him on a set date and time then you can go to your local police department and show them the papers and that he is in contempt and it could also be considered kidnapping. I would also contact a local attorney and see what your options are, some will give you a free consultation and this way you know what your options are.
I hope things work out for both you and your son!

How is it spelled out in the divorce papers on visitation and transportation? If it says you split the transportation 50/50 then I would do one of two things. I would either make arrangements to get my child myself with the understanding that the father has to pay for or endure all transportation issues next time (I've had to do this with my DD's father and it has worked so far).Option two (for drastic measures) when he is not where he is supposed to be with your son when you are supposed to get him back then I would call the police and report your child as being abducted. I had to threaten this upon my DD's father one time when he was giving me grief about not being able to make the drive from MI to TN when he was supposed to give her back to me, hence why the first option works for us cause he knows I'm not playing games with him. The second option sounds harsh I know, but my DD's father has always been kind of a dead beat dad so I just decided to take a stand and put my foot down to his BS!

Just look at your divorce papers really good and see what is says you both can and can't do and go from there. And next time he is supposed to go with his dad, tell him to make sure he has the funds to get his son back home to you before he goes to visit with him. Good luck to you!!

HI,my name is C. and if i were in your shoes and i wanted my son back home with me i would call the police!! It seems if you could get him on contimped of court. or something to get your son back..your's truley C.

If it is in your custody aggrement that he drops him off and picks him up and he isn't doing it, then he is in contempt. You may want to compromise and meet him halfway somewhere at least this time. As far as the child support goes, contact Child Support Enforcement and they will take it directly from his paycheck and if he keeps quitting or changing jobs so that they can not establish employment, they automatically take him to court. Good luck.

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R.,
The first question I have is, is the agreement written into a court order? If so, then he is responsible for making arangements to get your son back to you. I have a friend that has had the same problem with his ex wife and transportation for their son (who is now 14). If the court has agreed to what the two of you chose, then he is responsible for the transportation, not you. I wish there was more I could tell you!
Good Luck!

Without knowing what your court records state, it's hard to say what you need to do. Coming from a mom, I would go & get my child no matter what. Not to mention, it sounds as though the law needs to be involved. Depending on your court papers, it could be considered kidnapping. I would get legal help fast! Above all else, pray. God can do what no one else can!

sorry to hear that. borrow the money, from family or friends, call your ex's parents if you can and ask them to bring him home. do whatever you have to so you can get your little boy. my sons are my world and i would beg, borrow or steal for them. as i know most moms would. i am sure where there is a will there is a way. have faith, and may god bless you and your son.

Hi R.,

I have a daughter by marriage and we moved out of state. This is a hard one. Do you have a court order for the visitation? Does it state it is his responsibility to get him home? If he does not have your son back by the date listed, you may want to talk to a court appointed attorney and the police. If it states in your court order how long he can have him and he doesn't adhere to this, he is in contempt. You may want to look online for child avocacy organizations that can help you and guide you.