Family Wash Kids Brain

If "family" is destructive to you or your family, don't have them around. Just because someone is family doesn't mean that you let them bully you or give you bad advice or try to interfere with your child. You are the parent. You control who interacts with your child.

you as a parent need to decide to either not expose your child to those people or after the fact discuss the things with your child "aunt Suzy said that smoking is ok, but think about that - it's gross, it smells bad and it makes you cough, so it's not really ok, is it?" or keep giving good advice over and over and over.

Well, what kind of bad advice? Social activities? Health choices? Morality issues? Is the child old enough to defend him/herself? If not, then maybe they need to stay away from that family environment. Family is blood-related, but can also be a choice remove yourself if that relationship is unhealthy.

Is this the child's father who is brainwashing the child? If so, that is called "parental alienation syndrome." I experienced this with my older son. I took him to a psychologist who diagnosed this and stated to me the following: "Your husband is engaging in behaviors designed to alienate your son from you." It's subsided somewhat all these many years later (my son is now 19), mainly because my husband drives truck and is gone all week, whereas previously he was driving a local account. It was torture. My relationship with my son has never fully recovered. I wish I had left my husband (I'm still with him and now also have a 5 year old). My belief at the time, however, was "Hold your friends close, and your enemies closer." I was afraid for him to have even more of a negative influence on my son if we split and he had more alone time with him. I'm now 42 and see what I didn't see then - that while I was in defense mode and staying with my husband, my life and the good years passed me by. Children ARE affected by words, and constant repetition by an adult and their influence CAN brainwash even an intelligent child. I would say to nip it in the bud sooner, rather than later. Try to keep your child from this person. Take your child to a psychologist to expose your child to another, healthier viewpoint to counteract the bad advice and brainwashing from this family member. You're a smart mother to recognize that this is going on. Best of luck to you.
C.

i know how you feel. i have been through that with my family. i tried to explain how i felt and that i was raising my children the way i wanted them raised with the values i felt were important. that if they couldnt respect that then they were not going to be involved in my life. unfortunetly some took it well and some did not. but in the end i raised my children the way i felt they needed to be raised. you need to put your foot down and explain in very simple ways, that if they can't except your wishes then they wont be involved anymore. if it comes to the family members not being able to see the child it might bring them around. if not then remember, family doesnt have to be blood related to be "family".

Move. Do not leave a forwarding address. Get an unlisted telephone number. You have to cut toxic people/family out of your life or they will eat you alive.

No offense, but because you give no specifics, it's impossible to tell if it's your family that's giving bad advice, or if it's you being unreasonable and stubborn.

To get a truly helpful response, you should give more information. :)
Who's offending you?
What are they saying?
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