Ex Boyfriend vs Husband

dear D.:

You will be wrong to encourage her that it is ok for her to see the boyfriend. Biblically and moraly it is wrong. She is married and she is to respect her marriage vows. What she is already doing is commiting adultery even though she is not sleeping with him. God tells us that even when we lust with our eyes we have already commited adultery. She will have to answer to God. How can she live with herself if she start to destroyed her family as well as her. THE RIGHT ANSWER JUST LOOK AT THE 10 COMMANDMENTS AND THEN LET HER DECIDE. BLESSING C. PS DO NOT BECOME A THIRD PARTY TO SOMETHING THAT IT IS SO UGLY

They each "closed the door" when they married other people.

For me, personally, the ONLY advice to her is forget the ex-boyfriend and concentrate on her marriage.

Wow! My very first thought is How Selfish! How selfish it is to consider cheating on their spouses when they BOTH have children in the middle of this decision. Neither of them are considering what this will do to their marriage and their childrens future. They are thinking solely about themselves and the passion that they feel about their ex's. I can understand having feelings that lingered ...but come on. It's a little to late to wonder about what could have been...That should have crossed their minds before marriage and kids. I really think that they are getting caught up in the passionate "first love" feelings and totally not thinking this decision through. My suggestion is to talk to your cousin and just ask her to just think about the whole situation through...ask her to think about what she will tell her kids, if she makes the decision to divorce her husband, if the husband finds out how he will react, who would get the kids if they split, . seriously ask her to consider to think beyond her lust and excitement of her 1st love and be realistic. Good luck

Let me start by saying that I too occassionally think about an ex and wonder - what if? It's pretty natural. But . . . I made a choice to marry my husband and love him for better or worse, through thickness and thin, etc. . .
I would suggest that you ask her if she's willing to risk the emotional, and possible physical health of the 5 children and 4 adults involved?!!! She is being selfish and should really think long and hard about going on the "down low" with her ex - HER EX!!!!! They had their chance and didn't follow through, even if they never officially closed it. She should close it now! She should tell her husband that she would like to meet with him in a public place and explain to her ex that they have both moved on, and while they might still have some feelings for each other they have two separate lives now! Divorce should not be an option!! Save the marriage! Be the voice of reason for her. You can do it!