Easily Distracted DD

Updated on October 14, 2011
K.U. asks from Detroit, MI
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I am pretty sure this is normal for kids her age (4) but I am wondering how many of you go through the same thing. She gets so easily distracted by EVERYTHING and sometimes in the middle of trying to get something done, especially if we are in a hurry, it gets frustrating. She wants to get herself dressed, but gets her pajamas off and starts playing with a toy. Gets her shirt on, picks up a different toy instead of getting on her pants. Walking into the bathroom to go potty or brush teeth, and she notices something outside the window and has to check it out or ask a question about it, or has to grab a bathtub toy or something on the counter and start messing with it. Trying to get her into the car and she is talking about something or asking another question instead of climbing up into her seat. Or has to pick up a rock or look at a bug on the ground.

I usually am okay and have learned to just roll with it for the most part. I try to plan ahead and anticipate things taking longer than expected so we don't end up late all the time. But I spend a lot of my time and breath reminding her that we need to finishing doing X and then she can do Y. Or reminding her that I need her to focus. Has anyone else gone through this with their kids and how did you deal with it? Did they outgrow it at some point or could this be a sign of ADD (there isn't much else that would make me suspect she has an issue with ADD, but I was always "day-dreamy" as a kid and wonder if I didn't have ADD to some degree). TIA!

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A.S.

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If I had to guess I would say that she is highly intelligent and curious about EVERYTHING. I was that way too, as a kid, and read everything I could get my hands on. To this day, I'm rarely bored and there are always books, articles, publications, etc. that I want to read and don't get around to.

My younger son is that way (not a reader though). He probably *could* get an ADD diagnosis if we tried for it (not the hyper version - he's not hyper at all). But he's also extremely smart (even on tests, and he's got a visual processing disorder).

The good news is that most girls develop the "executive functioning" part of the brain much sooner than boys (some boys never do it seems).

I would watch it for another year or so before I started to worry (and I'm usually one who likes to be proactive). I think alot of this could be her age. And maybe it's not. But the problem is you won't be able to tell for awhile.

Good luck.

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L.P.

answers from Pittsburgh on

Yes, everyday of my life. :) Patience, patience, reminders, prompting, and more patience. lol

I think that outside of any other 'symptoms,' this is totally normal in the world of a 4 year old.

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M.D.

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Very normal... How many times have you walked into one room to get something and see something and start doing that. Or you are putting away clothes, see something pick it up and start doing something else. I think we all do that, does it mean everyone has ADD or something...

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T.N.

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Well, you've only got another 14 years of prompting.....

(Really, being a doc, you must realize unless there are other symptoms screaming at you everyday.....she's fine, it'll get easier!)

:)

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B.P.

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Very normal. And although it will get somewhat better it goes on for years...

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G.B.

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She may have ADD without the hyperactivity. Sounds like it. I'd keep things simple, give simple instructions (one task at a time), and allow plenty of time. She will be a good one for check-off lists and anything else that can put her in control of what needs to be done. Limit sugar and food colors/additives. That will probably help. My oldest was this way and she's an emergency room doctor now. Loses her purse, cell phone, appt book, car keys etc. all the time and finally got a cleaning lady to come 3x week to deal with the chaos. She's a wonderful, caring professional and great mom but can't ever do anything in a straight line unless she's focusing which is how she copes at work - plus the nurses help her out a lot and she thanks them heartily.

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W.Y.

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I am so glad you asked this because I have often wondered the same thing about my 4 year old daughter. I thought I was reading about her, lol. She is CONSTANTLY getting into something else while trying to do the first thing and wakes up all chitty chatty while I'm trying to get to my first cup of coffee. I have no advice, just wanted to say thank you for making me realize I'm not the only one :)

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