Does Your Kid's Behavior Changes Drastically a Few Days Before Your Period?

This is your first post here, and it's a pretty strange one. We have people who come on here making up stuff (trolls) in order to get a reaction from people, or to see just how gullible people are. I don't know if you are one of them, or if this a real question from you.

I will treat this question as if you really mean it, but you still might not like my answer. Your son needs consistent parenting for his particular issues. Instead of thinking that your period/hormones cause his behavior, talk to your ped about how best to handle him. When you give an "excuse" for his behavior, you minimize his problem and pass off your responsibility to help him.

Parenting is hard work, especially with difficult children. You need professional help, you need a plan. Get your ped to help you start.

My husbands behaviour changes drastically before my period, and has for the past 25 years. I wonder if maybe it is my sensitivity to his behaviour that changes?

It's much more likely that he's responding to changes in your behavior. Perhaps it's your level of patience or the tone of your voice that's different. Whatever it is, it affects him and his behavior.

Look, PMS is very real. Hormones really do affect they way we act and the way we feel. I wish that weren't the case. I would like to think that I can control myself better than that, but I'm only human. I hate it when I'm having a bad day and finally get up enough courage to tell my husband why. He always get really excited and says, "Ah ha!" It stinks because I want everything to be his fault, or at least a little bit his fault. It probably is, but I still cannot deny the fact that my hormones didn't help.

PMS is very real, and your little guy is just so little. He doesn't know how to respond any better than he is. You're probably better off saying, "Honey, I'm sorry Mommy is not quite herself today. Let's find something fun to do. Do you want to do a puzzle?"

I am sure your husband, you have a husband right? can confirm it is you, not the child.

No. I think you're looking at it backwards.
You're probably stressing your son out if you're hormonal. My husband sometimes backs out of the house with the kids when I'm at my worst. I went on hormones and my moods are better.
I didn't know I was bad. I had moments when pregnant where my husband sort of disappeared. PMS can be bad and you might not have a clue. Time to talk to your doctor I'd say.

My ex used to swear that he could smell my hormones changing a few days before my period, so it's possible that your son is responding to pheromones.

I suppose this is a matter of 'does pms affect your behavior and does your affected behavior affect your kid(s) behavior'.
I think there might be a correlation but my pms was never so bad that it was an issue for me.
Our sons behavior has always been consistent regardless of where ever I was in my cycle.

Do you think your sons behavior might change for the better if you suddenly went through menopause or had a hysterectomy?
Or maybe this is something just going on with your son?
It might be worth it for him to be evaluated.

If there's a hormonal imbalance in one family member, it's no stretch of the imagination to think other family members might also suffer from their own hormonal imbalances - and behaviors are affected by hormones.
If you're having fun now - just wait till your kids hit puberty.

No. However my mom remembers that whenever she was under the weather or otherwise stressed my brother and I were particularly ill behaved. These things go hand in hand.

We may have been opportunistic ly bad or perhaps she was short on resources because she was under pressure.

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I agree with Doris Day and Gidget. You are probably the last person to judge whether your behavior or patience changes before your period - none of us could evaluate that objectively in the throes of our own hormonal changes.

But I also think potty accidents and behavioral changes in a child need to be looked at objectively - consistency of parenting is absolutely critical. It's not just how you react to these things when they happen, it's also what happened BEFOREHAND and how you reacted. That is to say, his behavior could easily be the result of something you are doing or saying. Or some way you are reacting differently to him. I think blaming this on your period is missing the point entirely, and perhaps blinding you to what's really going on.

I think his reaction to medication needs to be separated out as a different issue.

You might discuss this with the pediatrician to find other causes, and also with whoever else is in your household and parenting your child, plus any preschool teachers or babysitters, so get some additional feedback and observation.

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I agree with Doris Day and Gidget. You are probably the last person to judge whether your behavior or patience changes before your period - none of us could evaluate that objectively in the throes of our own hormonal changes.

But I also think potty accidents and behavioral changes in a child need to be looked at objectively - consistency of parenting is absolutely critical. It's not just how you react to these things when they happen, it's also what happened BEFOREHAND and how you reacted. That is to say, his behavior could easily be the result of something you are doing or saying. Or some way you are reacting differently to him. I think blaming this on your period is missing the point entirely, and perhaps blinding you to what's really going on.

I think his reaction to medication needs to be separated out as a different issue.

You might discuss this with the pediatrician to find other causes, and also with whoever else is in your household and parenting your child, plus any preschool teachers or babysitters, so get some additional feedback and observation.

No. That sounds weird.

Okay, I was ready to jump on the bandwagon and say you're probably more sensitive and likely to notice stuff when you're PMSing or that you might have PMDD.

BUT I googled it.

I am surprised to find other moms have asked this same question. Mostly about breastfed babies though. But a couple have asked about it for older, not nursing, kids.

Here's a link to a thread but I think there are a lot more out there. Just word your search question where it's your period influencing your kids.

http://community.babycenter.com/post/a28576835/can_breast...

I cannot imagine medicating my child because I'm in a hormonal flux. PMS is real. When I hit that point of the month, my mantra is "it's not them, it's me." It's being self-aware. Kids do pick up on our moods, true, but I would medicate myself over my own PMS than even think of putting the burden on him.