Do Your Kids Get to Pick Their Donut First??

Hey, we all get bent out of shape about something once in a while, right? But the bottom line is, if he wanted a specific donut he should have taken it. You can't tell someone to take whatever they want then get mad when they do.

No but my husband is too "healthy" to eat doughnuts lol!
Seriously though, a gentleman always lets the women and children go first, right?
Next time tell him to buy his own damn doughnut and put it aside ahead of time!

He's the dope that told them to pick a donut before grabbing his out. Did he think they magically knew what he would want?

As mom's we typically tend to put our kids needs and wants before our own without even thinking. Seems like men, while they obviously love their children, just don't have this same mentality.

While this does seem particularily immature...they all can be at times, lol.

Maybe your DH was in a bad mood that day and really wanted that damn donut lol...or maybe he's just immature and has some growing up to do. Either way, hope he learned his lesson...hide the good stuff from the kids! lol

He should have picked his donut first to ensure he got what he wanted. Doesn't he know kids will eat EVERYTHING if given the option?? LOL
My husband knows better than to offer the kids their pick first. I always get the kids faves so they pick that and sorry, I take mine first regardless. Children are unpredictable sometimes and I like to ensure I get what I want.....LOL

I would from now on buy all custard..

If you offer, how can you get mad? Tell hubby, take the one you want and then offer what is left, otherwise he is always going to be frustrated.

Or cut them in half and share the custard,.

I just get everyone their favourite and we all know which one is ours.

How old is this man that he doesn't know the "Favorite Donut In the Separate Bag" trick?

Yes...immature.

I do not like the plain circle donuts with the holes, I don't care if they are glazed, powdered sugar, or chocolate, they are beleech. I would pass on them. My entire family likes the filled donuts, especially the triple chocolate. So if I am buying donuts for the family I buy what we all like.

When I was a child donuts were banned in our house because my dad couldn't have them, they upset his stomache. Sweet rolls and danishes were fine but NO donuts. Every now and then my Mom would get my brother and I a chocolate filled donut when she stopped at the bakery after picking us up from school. But they had to be eaten and all evidence of said donut GONE before dad got home.
Kinda silly but that is who my dad was.

As far as my ex goes --- he would have totally taken what he wanted without reguard to anyone else's feelings, but of course he was priviledged (or so he thought) he wonders why he's an ex-husband.

My hub would know better than to get more than one kind. ;)

I'll be honest, sometimes I will buy something and tell the kids that XYZ are mine and to not touch, they can have the rest. Sorry but even I have my selfish moments.

I bet he was sitting in the car, smelling those yummy smelling donuts all the while dreaming of the custard ones. He get's home offering the kids one, thinking they would pick something else....and boom there went his custard dream.

Yeah, I've been there, and I am not immature and believe myself to be pretty normal (my kids might debate that though).

No, my husband would not. He is the DAD, he would take first pick. :)
Besides which, he knows what everyone likes and gets their favorites if we aren't with him to order for ourselves. There are four of us, and he will get 6, so that he has 4 he knows we will like, then he guesses on the other two and nobody every has NO choice.

My nephew needed a dozen for his 6th grade party, I ran in and got all jelly, half glazed, half powdered sugar. He hadn't specified.

In answer to your title question, yes, after whomever bought them gets first pick. What your husband did immature? Yes, but normal for a man. My ex would have done the same as your hub, rather than getting all the same kind or picking his first ;) Life is as simple or complicated as you make it, lol!

Your main question...do kids get to pick their donut first?
Sure.
After I grabbed mine to keep their grubby little hands off!! LOL!!!
I don't know if it's normal, my husband and I pick out donuts for each kid that we know they like to make sure they are happy. Husband is nice enough that he would share a bite or two.
Not me. :)

My husband would never do this in a million years. I agree that it is immature. And if he needed a custard donut so bad he should have bought more.I would also tell him that he has taken every bit of fun out of the kid's treat and in retrosepct it would have better for them to never have gotten the donuts than to see this display of selfishness from an adult, their father, who obviously has his own interests first.

Its just bad planning.

Which isn't something only men do... But there's definitely a stereotype.

Ex) If you want a custard donut, take it OUT before offering the rest to other people OR buy all custard. DO NOT put what you want mixed in with the rest (expecting people to know you have dibs on it without telling them), and never leave what you want in the mix with kids even if you DO tell them that one is yours, unless you take a bite out... So that its smaller or 'gross' looking... Kids fight over dibs (so do a lot of adults).

That's planning. 3 different ways. ANY of those 3 ways would have averted the Treat I'm Going To Yell At You About Incident.

He did none of the above 3 plans... So it depended entirely on luck if he got what he wanted.

Self inflicted injury.

I'm sorry he turned a fun thing into an unhappy one.

UNLESS your kids took mind reading, and are as mature as an adult who will honor a 'dibs' instead of taking a dibs as a challenge.

Immature of Husband.. Hopefully you've told him this.

Yes mine would want to pick his first. My kids know better than to pick my favorite. lol

I can't imagine getting treats and not asking each person what they want...how rude to begin with.

If he was going to get something that he really wanted and didn't want it shared he could have bought one for himself and eaten it on the way home then there would have been 6 left for everyone else to pick from that were the same.

The question should have been about your husband and he could have picked what he wanted since he was the one who went for the donuts????

LMAO!!!! Really, I laughed so hard and to amuse myself even more I asked my husband who replied, "I wouldn't get mad over donuts. Geez. But if I brought home scones and someone ate my cinnamon scone, heck yea I'd be mad!" Then as if this would really happen, he added, "I would avoid it by buying one for everyone". (Sure you would).

So trying to impart wisdom, I asked why men get mad. "I don't know."

Another mystery of the Y chromosome we may never understand.

Normal.

My husband would tell all "Hands off the fritter, it's mine" before anyone even reached in.

I always buy everyone what I know they like, to ensure everyone gets their favorite!

Yes, it's normal for a man. But my Mister always does the same thing. If he chooses doughnuts on his own, he chooses what he likes and then what he thinks the children like. Then he lets them choose from the box first. Except they choose the ones he chose for himself and then he gets crabby.

I taught him to take a list of what the kids have asked for before going. There's always a back-up in case they're out of something. I tell him that if he wants to ever surprise them in the future, keep the lists in his wallet or just get a whole box of his favorites and the girls will be fine.

Do I think it is "normal" for an adult to get bent out of shape over a donut? No. Can I see my husband doing it? Yes...not all the time but I could see it.

If he didn't want them to pick the custard, he should have pulled the custard out or indicated they were off limites before allowing the kids to "pick a donut", or he could have gotten all the same kind so there was no issue, or asked the kids before he went to the store so he was sure to get enough of the custard.

I tend to like the plainer donuts, bagels, whatever (I don't like the filled ones) so I tend to get all the same because if you only like plain you don't want the others but most people who like the fancier ones will eat the plain ones too. That or I ask what others want before I get them (and still they try to eat my plain ones and leave me with filled ones which is why I tend to get chocolate iced, marble iced, or just glazed or a combination of those three so I know we'll all like them).

My husband does not eat donuts but if he did, he would not act like a baby about it.

I recall my dad would get donuts sometimes and he knew what everyone liked. I liked the long john so there was always one in there for me. From now on, just tell him to remember that the kids like custard too and to get mostly that. Lesson learned. Yes, it was immature, but doesn't have to happen again. Or next time, if he picked one out for himself specifically that he's looking forward to, he can say "I call custard."

I don't think its a big deal. If my kids wanted the donut I wanted-- I would let them have it. Its more important to me to see my children's smiling, happy faces--then to eat a silly donut myself. Your husband should have taken the custard one first if he was so hot-to-trot to have it. Did he really expect that offering the donut first, that they wouldn't pick the one he wants?

My husband wouldn't do this--he would buy enough of them so he could have a few and the kids could have whatever they want.

Thankfully mine doesn't do that, but so that my kids don't waist food, we cut the donuts in half - if they finish it they can have another pick. So everyone gets a little of everything. Also, some of my kids eventhough only 8, 7 & 5 know mommy's favorit donut in all the world is a maple cream stick... if there is only one, they usually leave it for mommy. Aren't they SWEET :) but if they were to eat it oh well, I should have gotten more of them after all I know the kids like them too.

Normal over here. I think it's because I usually make all the decisions and my husband doesn't ask for much. I pick out his snacks since he can't make up his mind. I purchase the food and choose what I want, so I'm also more willing to let the kids pick first.

I love the creme filled choc frosted. second fav would be fruit filled w poweded sugar, third fav would be choc cake

so hubby will get doughnuts and only get 2 of those and the rest will be plain or somesthing he'll ALWAYS pull out what ever he wants FIRST and then offer to the 2 kids who LOVE my 3 favs. and then mom is stuck with 9 doughnuts none of which are a fav and then i'm mad because i still eat them even though i don't like them so all those calories for nothing, nobody likes those other ones so i have no idea why he buys them HEdoesnt's even like them. idiot!

but would I EVER say anything to make my kids feel bad, NO!!

Duh. If everyone likes custard donuts get mostly custard donuts. Don't get the ones no one eats :) we don't eat donuts so not really an issue in our house.

normal for men. They are kids, forever.. ^_*

It was immature. He had the opportunity at the donut store to get plenty of custard to cover everyone. To stomp, piss and moan after wards....that's ridiculous. Put the big boy pants on! I had issues as it was with my late hub. He'd take huge portions, serve himself first, and would comment on what the kids would do. Immature big time.