K.M.
Hi K., you sound depressed. I was in a marriage where I did not love the person and that is enough to send you into a downward spiral all by itself. I would really suggest going to your doctor and getting some anti-depressants then going to counseling so that you can get some help making some decisions. It's too much to do alone. Once you get depressed you can't really make decisions until you get out of that space. Bless you for wanting to stay with your husband for your children's sake. You are obviously a very caring person and a wonderful momma! At the same time, it may not be the best thing for all of you - or staying may be. Get some help to find out.