Do You Inform Other Parents When...

sorry - if my kid is sick - i'm not taking them to the park. that is just plain idiotic...sorry - but sick is sick...this has nothing to do with sharing germs...

IF my kid is sneezing - yeah - I would tell the parents that my kid has allergies...so they didn't think their child was going to get sick...

If it's a neighbor - I would've asked outright - Does Sally need a kleenex for her sneezing??? That would've allowed and opened a conversation....

I don't inform other parents because I don't take my child to the park, mall, or any other public place, when they are sick.

No because I don't take my kids out when they are sick. Well occasionally to the pediatrician's office but then it is kinda a given the kids could be sick.

Sneezing in the park means nothing. I am constantly sniffling and sneezing as are my kids, they are called allergies.

How about instead of is whoever sick you go with allergies suck don't they. Generally you will get a laundry list of everything the poor little dears are allergic to.

A cold is just a cold. If we all kept our kids home every time they had a runny nose, we might never leave the house. Their kids are picking up worse germs from touching the playground equipment...

Now, if there is a fever or worse symptoms, we stay home.

Um, I don't take my kids to the park if they are sick. So no i wouldn't tell you, and if I have to run to the store and take them I don't post a sign that they are sick. However if I am expecting company I let them know beforehand so they can decide if they want to bring their kids over. I think it's very rude of parents to take their sick kids to public play areas, birthday parties or playdates, even daycare.

I definitely would tell other parents. It drives me CRAZY when other people don't say anything. My daughter is immune compromised, and for her, it's a very bad thing to get sick (her body can't produce enough white blood cells to fight off illnesses...or platelets...or rbc). She ends up in the hospital when she gets sick because it wipes out her bone marrow production. She's ended up on blood transfusions for months because of it. So, I know our situation is different than most everyone, but you never know what someone else is dealing with, and it's always polite to at least let them know so THEY can decide if they care or not. When you inform the parent, you are giving the power to them. Otherwise, by not telling them, you are keeping the power to yourself and deciding for them.

For us, it means we have to avoid people for the most part. We have to be very careful in public places, and we don't get a lot of people over to play. In my perfect world, people would stay home when they are sick and try hard to not pass around illness. But I know we're such a minority that we can't expect others to think like us!

I have asked people if their child was sick or not. It was awkward, but I've had to know. Luckily people seem pretty understanding and don't seem to take it personally...usually.

'Colds' that a child has, can EASILY be really detrimental to other kids!

YES, I would tell other parents if my kid were sick and their kids were wanting to play or my kid was going up to them. Say in a store or something. And if my kids are sick and I am somewhere with them that can't be helped, I tell them to stay away from others/other kids and to cough or sneeze in their elbow. They do.

If my kids were sick, I would not have them at a park.

AND if the child is an infant or baby or any child... YES I would keep my kids away from them if they were sick, AND tell that parent head's up my kid is sick.... like if I were at a store or something getting them cold medicine.

Of course, I would warn the other parents.
Why not?

And yes, if my kid were just sneezing due to allergies, I say that too.
To clarify.

And I do NOT like my kids, being around other kids who are sick and out and about at a park.
I tell my kids STAY AWAY FROM THAT KID, THEY ARE SICK. And their mucus is getting all over the place and on everyone.

Germs are not good spreading it around to other kids/parents... when knowingly doing it.
Geez.

I have Asthma.
IF and when I get sick... it can be VERY VERY VERY serious. Even if I have a common cold.
I detest... kids/people who are sick, and knowingly just go to school and spread it around and just sneeze and cough all around the place without even caring that they are infecting people.
I HATE that.

I ALWAYS will ask "is your child sick?" I have NO shyness about that.
Not at all.
And I will even tell my kids, in front of said person, too.

And, even if a kid seems sick and is... you don't know if it is Pertussis or Croup or the Flu or something else that is highly contagious or not.

It is highly irresponsible, to allow a child to be around others when sick. When it can be prevented. Like, not taking your kid to the park when sick.
Simple.
Stay home.

I dont think children should be out playing when they are sick, they should be home resting so they get better. So no, I dont warn other people because I dont take my kids out when they are sick, for their health, and the health of other people.
Some children get very sick from just a common cold, some have brand new babies to bring the virus home to.
I realize germs are everywhere and there is no way to always avoid them. Sometimes your with other kids and the next day your kid comes down with something, and did expose the other child. These situations are not preventable, but knowing taking your sick kid out to play where there are other kids is extremely selfish and irresponsible.
And yes, I would have said "IS YOUR CHILD SICK???" With a big fat smile on my face.
Well for sneezing I probably wouldnt, be if there is a hacking coughing kid I will sure say something. Can you tell this kind of thing makes me mad? ;)

There are times when I have had to take my sick kid out to buy meds from target or the grocery store. Sometimes I don't have a choice when there is no one else to get these things but me. I feel bad about it, but I'm not going to make my kid wait 8 hours for her dad to come home from work so he can pick up ibuprofen... So there have been times when I've run into friends with their kids at the store, and I tell them straight out, "stay back, you don't want to be around this."

But I surely don't take my kid out to parks or places to play when she's ill. We've come across the "sick" kids countless times when we're out having fun... and that's when we ALL end up ill. But I do try to take my kid out of the environment as quickly as possible. Crummy, but it's just ALWAYS going to happen. Adults go out and go to work ALL the time when they are sick, too.-- and conveniently don't' say anything. Just the way it is.

I always heard we are most contagious right before symptoms show up. So if you want to keep you children from spreading bad germs, keep them home when they appear to be healthy. and keep you kids away from kids who appear healthy. You never know.
If a kid was sneezing and had a runny nose and was playing with my child, I would ask, Oh honey do you have a cold? or poor baby does she have a cold? and hope the parent would jump in with no it's allergies. If it is a cold I would hope I remembered to bring hand sanitizer with me to get those germs.
Do I bring my child to the park with a cold? Yeah, I never heard of keeping a kid home for a little stuffy nose and sneezing. and I'm often not sure if it is a cold or allergies. If he is lethargic, listless, glassy eyed, or has had a fever he stays home.

well, for us, if my kids are sick enough to still be contagious, then I keep them home. I wouldn't purposely take them out somewhere knowing they are sick. I know not everyone does that, but I wouldn't ask someone if their kids are sick. Also if you are outdoors at the park or something, I wouldn't be too worried about it since you aren't in an enclosed area. There is plenty of fresh air. you really can't avoid getting sick no matter where you go, and with kids around

I wouldn't worry about it either way. If they're obviously very ill, I'd leave. I had relatives who didn't want my kids around if their siblings were sick but they weren't or if they had been sick but were better. It irritated me that they would bug me about it so I asked their doctor about it. She said that if they are obviously very ill, keep them home. Otherwise, they are fine. Good luck!!

No, I wouldn't take my child to the mall or park if he was sick with a cold. If it's allergy related, I would probably smile and let them know that my child suffers from allergies.

If a friend's child was sneezing profusely, I would probably say something casually like, "I see little Sue is sneezing a lot, is she an allergy sufferer too? I always get it this time of year as well."

I am going to agree with some of the posters on here. I would not take my child to the park if they were sick. Or children related places in general. I had the pleasure of taking care of my sick daughter after a parent decided it was good to take their kid to Chuckee Cheese when they have the flu. It downright makes me angry that a parent would be so thoughtless. As a mom that has had to pull the all nighters, clean up vomit, do endless loads of bedding and console a crying child for hours because of what looked like a harmless "cold", I would NEVER take my child out to do that to another parent.

Sneezing and a runny nose don't automatically mean a cold - it could be allergies as well, so I don't always assume a kid who is sneezing is contagious. I have cancelled scheduled play dates because my daughter has come down with something and I try to keep her home more if she is sick and avoid places like the play area at the mall. If it was from allergies or a cold, I would let them know, and what they choose to do with that information is up to them. But I also know that kids could just as easily pick up a cold from anywhere, not just my daughter.

I don't because I don't take my kids out to the park, mall, etc when they are sick

Well I don't let my kids go to the park etc when they are sick or have a head cold. If I think it is just allergies, I will probably monitor it a couple days to make sure it isn't actually a cold, bc really it's hard even as a mom to always be sure. If I go somewhere and kid is sneezing up a storm and if those sneezes are accompanied by snot, we leave as quick as possible! So I don't inform others about my child's ailments bc if they are sick we stay home!

yah we def. dont go out if they are sick however they both do get seasonal allergies so i do throw that out there when we are in public and like someone already said we do let people know ahead of time if were expecting company....i remember we had one summer my daughter was constantly sick and we were having a cookout and like 4 people still came even tho my daughter had pink eye....clearly they didnt have children

My son has suffered with seasonal allergies and asthma his entire 15 years - though the asthma has gotten better through the years - the allergies have actually worsened.

So, mine was the kid on the playground sneezing like crazy - but totally not sick - as in nothing contagious. I did explain to other Moms that he had allergies and was not sick, erego, not spreading cold or flu germs.

As a parent on the "other side" it was frustrating to watch Moms yank their kids away from mine, when he was not sick. I never took him to the park when he was sick because I didn't want to spread germs - heck, I hated taking him for regular checkups to the pediatrician's because of the germs there. LOL

Anyhoo, I willingly offered up the information when he was having allergies, because I was a germophobe with him as any slight cold could set off a sever asthma attack plus I respected other parent's concerns for their children also.

Next time, go ahead and ask if the neighbor child is sick. I think it is a reasonable thing to do.

God Bless

I'd probably ask about allergies this time of year. I will call ahead and inform the host so they can delcine if my kids are sniffly and we are having a playdate or going to someone's house.

I don't usually take my kids out when they are sick (with the exception of the doctor and pharmacy if needed). But I also assume they will be exposed to countless germs if they go to a park, mall or someplace else with tons of kids. That is why there is hand sanitizer in the diaper bag.

Colds and other minor stuff are a judgement call. If you have stayed home a few days with a cold and your kid is over the worst of it (no runny nose or cough to spread germs) sometimes you need to get out for a little.

I do feel for parents of children with serious health problems but I doubt public places will ever be "safe" and germ free to that standard.

I don't take my kids to places like the park when I know they are sick but I know for a fact that not everyone is as polite. My kids usually don't want to play when they're sick anyways.
Maybe instead of asking is Susy sick, ask if Susy is having issues with allergies. If the child is sick odds are the mother would fess up, if it's allergies she'll probably say something like they're pretty bad and you move on. This way you aren't assuming the child is sick and in a round about way calling the mother wrong for having purposely brought her child out to infect everyone around her.
We're a family with allergies so I know the sneezing all the time issue. We're not sick all the time :)
I don't want my kids sick anymore then they need to be. I will take them away as fast as possible if we have a special activity coming up in the near future that I absolutely do not want my kids sick for if I see a kid there that looks sick.

My son started hacking this morning and complaining of his throat hurting when he got off the bus this afternoon. The other mom who waits for her son said Oh A was so sick this last weekend he ended up in the emergency room just as I look over the kid is sticking his hands in my 9 mos old face and touching her binkie. ugh.. really! If your kid was sooo sick that he was in the hospistal why in the world did you send him to school today and why in the world are you letting him touch my babies stuff! Drives me batty.

But on the typical day at a park No I wouldn't expect anyone to tell me if their kids are or are not sick. Close friends I do tho.

My son is immunocompromised; meaning he does not produce enough white blood cells to fight off infection. That being said, I don't think it is realistic to expect people to keep their kids home with colds all of the time. Colds can last several weeks, especially the cough/runny nose portion. I just have to take extra precautions with him, like extra vigilant hand washing and keeping him home if there is a known outbreak of something at school. Fevers are a different story, of course.

We usually don't go outside much when he's sick, so no. Besides, my son was a daycare baby and now is in a preschool, so he picks things up all the time and shares things without "informing".

If he had something contageous and we HAD to leave the house, I would probably say that he is sick and then pull my littel guy away.

i dont take them to places where they would have the oppurtunity to get others sick when they are sick. but there have been times when i've had to take them with me to the grocery store and i'll make sure to wipe off the cart. i would have asked the other parent though, i dont think it would have been rude.

NO. If a child is sick they should be at home.

Let kids be kids. You cannot put your kid in a bubble.

I usually ask if someone is sick if I suspect it. I would like to have the opportunity to choose if I leave my kids in that situation or not. I personally try not to bring my kiddos in public if they are really sick with a cold/flu etc. Mild symptoms are ok, but anything green-we stay home. But, I don't have any problem asking others----Its what is best for my kids.

M