Difference Between a Step and Bilogical Parent (Aside Frm the Obvious)?

I'm so surprised I'm the first to answer this. My step-dad took a back seat to my mom, but there were times he put his foot down. My mom and he would have a discussion and came up with a solution together. I really want to emphasize that I think that this was VERY important. I keep reading that all the parenting/discipline needs to be done by the bio parent but I'm not sure I agree. Though I didn't love it at the time, it also made me respect him. He was setting boundaries and showed he really cared about me. I guess this depends on what the discipline looks like, but for me, it was apparent the discipline was out of love.

My step also encouraged a relationship with my dad, joked around with me a lot (in a great way), spoke about his world view (which informs how I now view politics and social issues) and really loved me. But it took a lot of time.

I really think roles emerge depending on the child's age and who the person is. When I was younger, I wouldn't dream of going to have a talk with my step-dad. Things really changed high school and esp in college. He was my "go to" when my mom had a tough time letting me make adult decisions. I do think he was great in supporting my mom in the way she chose to raise me... no tension there. What it really came down to for me was this guy was/is crazy about my mom (26 years later), treated her with respect and humor and that reflected how their relationship worked and what role he played in my life. Super vague, but that's what I have to offer.

Being a step-parent myself for many years, and having a son of my own, I can tell you that I treated them ALL the same. If they were living in my home, they followed the house rules......biological child and step-children alike! I loved them all! They were disciplined the same and rewarded the same. They are all grown now and their father is deceased, but we have a wonderful relationship.

girls who are 25 and 28 years old to tell their 15 year old brother to take the trash out or put up clothes. I am so seperated from them when it comes to family matters.

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Im from the usa and now living and married to a egyptian man with 3 kids, NOOOOOOOOOOO we dont have the same role here, the culture is different and with their mom who passed away they dont except me as the new family member. I have to ask the girls to tell their brother to do some thing if i want him to take the trash out or clean his room he is 15 and they are 25 and 28 years old. i am not allowed to give him any orders, i feel like the outcast. he even stole my cell phone to get back at me cause i said no he can not drive my new car at his age alone. oh this is tough for me to handle and except, but i love my husband and he loves me, the kids now live in their house and we are all seperated now, but hard on my husband the seperation, some times i tell myself when you love some one you have to let them go. maybe his son needs his attention more then me.

It all depends on the family. And how involved the other parent is and how interfearing the other parent is if they are still around I think. My sil could not disapline her step daughter even though they had been married since she was 3. Cause of her mom. There was lots of issues there. But in my house my husband has never treated our oldest like anything less than his bio son. Granted he is no longer considered his step dad as he adopted him. And his bio father has not been in the picture at all.

I don't think they should be treated different but I know that there are so many different family dinamics that dictate how the family will work.