Did I Do the Right Thing?

You did the right thing. She may find out and she may be upset, but you did what is best for her. If she can't understand and appreicate that now, she will someday. When I was her age, I was very active in sports, especially softball. The high school coach began scouting me when I was 11, but I blew out my arm trying to please everyone and prove I was the best. I was playing/practicing almost 12 hours a day. I was pressured by my coaches to get back in before my doctor released me, which was almost 20 years ago. To this day, there are times when if I strain it too much, I can't use it for a few days until I rest it. My son is only 2 now, but with everything I see/read about the over-competiveness (and my own personal experience), I'm already gearing up for a fight. As a parent, you have to protect your child, even when their older and feel they can do it themelves. Good luck to you and make sure she takes care for herslef now so she doesn't have health problems in the future.

Yes you did the right thing not only for your daughter but for the others girls that will have/has to deal with this coach. I am sure your daughter is not the only one the coach is being mean too and it should be straighten out before it gets worse. I hope this goes on the teachers record and she gets reprimained. She definitly ows your daughter an apology.
If your daughter does get upset about it tell her you did cause you love her and to help any other girls that will have to deal with this coach.
Good Luck!

Our coach harrassed us, even when my sister broke her ankle, the coach refused her treatment, and my sister craweled to her car to go to the doctor. My father was livid and talked to the coach, but she never budged, and she never got any type of punishment either. And when my husband broke his leg in sports, the coach calle him weak and also refused him medical treatment and taunted him the rest of the year.

I'm sick of coaches thinking they can get away with anything, yes, you did the right thing. Hopefully, the coach won't retaliate even further. You may just need to get a more current doctor's note that excuses your daughter for an extended period of time. Since the school year is pretty much over, the coach may not let her join athletic's next year...

Been there; done that! I'd be curious to know the school and coach's name, LOL!

My daughter had a basketball coach with the same type of attitude. My daughter weighed 116 lbs and the coach harrassed and embarrassed her daily about losing more weight. She would weigh the girls together and made comments about their sizes. At Thanksgiving she made very degrading remarks about my daughter eating too much over the holidays. This was middle school and they were practicing during school and after every single day. When the season began officially, we began to hear stories about the coach's ugly remarks to the girls when they suffered a loss. On the bus ride home after one particular loss, the coach threatened to put them all off the bus and make them walk home because they weren't bummed out enough about losing the game. She reprimanded them for talking and visiting.

Teens don't want to be the center of attention. And they especially don't want to be singled out as a snitch. My daughter didn't want us to notify the school about this teacher/coach's attitude either. But my husband and I decided it would be better to bring the coach's actions to the attention of the ones in charge. Our daughter, too, didn't want to participate in athletics anymore. We decided to pull her from the team to prevent any retaliation. That was 28 years ago; and I'd agree to do the same thing to this day.

My daughter found that many of her teammates were appreciative of the meeting she and her dad had with the principal and counselor. Seems the teacher/coach was put on notice and watched closely afterwards and she eased up some on the others. It taught my daughter to stand up for herself and to not be afraid to speak up if she were being treated abusively....whether it be physical or verbal.

I would go to the principal - that coach has no right to act like that. And especially if your daughter is thinking about quitting something that she loves just because of this coach. See, this kind of thing is why parents are so nervous about sending their kids to school - my daughter is only 6 months old, and I'm already trying to figure out what to do about schools for her.

I am also a teacher. I do know that there are two sides to every story, however, in this situation I would have to say you did the right thing. When I was in high school I had a terrible experience with a coach. To this day (20 years later) I cannot believe that someone who works with teens was allowed to destroy my self esteem the way that he did. Not only did he call me names, he managed to work my grades so that I failed my senior year and had to graduate in summer school! Your daughter might be angry now, but in the future she will be understanding. The bottom line is that if your daughter has a doctor's note, then there should be no questioning that.

My personally opinion is YES it was the right thing to do!! SHe may be a little mad or embarrassed at first, but she doesn't deserve that treatment at all. She has a note from the dr excusing her and that is all that should be said or done. The coach is way out of line accusing her of "just wanting her letterman jacket" I would have done the same thing if I was in your shoes!! Your daughter will get over it and see that something needs to be said to this coach. That behavior is unacceptable!! Good luck and keep us posted!!

I'm a teacher, and I would even suggest you voice your concern. If you don't who will? I keep hearing more and more stories like this with coaches, and it's really giving them a bad name. I have a student who had to go to the dr this Mon because of an initiation for drill team. They made them go through this craziness blindfolded and crawling through the mud. This girl wasn't allowed to use her CRUTCHES that she's been on for a few weeks now. She felt something weird when she was crawling but couldn't see what it was. It was bothering her and her whole knee was disgusting. Come to find out whatever happened caused her to develop a staph infection! She doesn't want her mom to say anything because she's afraid that next year will be difficult for her because the coach is "that type of person" as she says. ''

It's horrible that coaches are getting away with this kind of thing. Be your daughter's voice on this one.

Hi,

I had something simular as a teen. And yes, like someone else said, you don't want to be the centre of attention. But deep down you hope your parents will take action so it will stop. Because you as a teen can not fight an adult. So I protested, but that was the outside. Inside I was thankfull. But you only tell that your parents when you are older.

Good luck. I hope the principal is a reasonable person.

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You did the right thing. For your daughters sake ask the principle if she can make it seem like another student told her. If your daughter finds out you said something she may not tell you things in the future.