WOW - what an @hole. I know this is in my future, with a son who will most likely be involved in some sports or other activities, and I DREAD IT. And it's already happening... my son is 4 1/2, and he takes an instructional soccer class at our YMCA. Well, they had a "substitute" coach last week, and man, was he a jerk. The kids in this class are 4-6, and none of them have any soccer team experience. They are just there to learn and have FUN. So my son happened to be the first one at class last week, and as such, he was the first to chose a soccer ball from the bunch. And there is one ball with metallic gold writing on it, and all the kids want it, but he got it because he got there first. Ok, no big deal. So practice starts, and as soon as the ball got away from my son while dribbling or something, another kids snatches it from him. My son goes to him saying, "that's my ball", and the other kid is running from him, holding the ball. The coach intercepts them, took the ball, and said "No one gets this ball." Ok, still no REAL big deal. although I don't see why he didn't just hand it back to my son. But whatever. My son was even ok with this, he mouthed to me that no one gets to have that ball - he was just content that it wasn't taken from him and given to the other boy. At this point, I'm not really thinking anything of it. UNTIL this... a couple minutes later, while the coach was chit-chatting with another "coach" (aka another body standing around doing nothing while the class was going on), he told the other coach to demonstrate a skill, so he tosses him the gold ball, and said to him loudly, so the kids would hear him, "Here, you're a GOOD kid, so you can use this ball." It took EVERYTHING I had not to run out on that field and bury my foot up ____@____.com is wrong with these idiots?
I don't really have any advice for you. The coach is definitely and unfortunately an imbisile. You could talk to him, but that might just make your son a target. I don't know. I mainly just wanted to say that even though we're not there yet, I do empathize with your situation, because I already see it coming, and I hate it already.