So my friend and her hubby recently decided to start a family, now she is trying to plan a vacation for the first month she's off birth control so she can get pregnant somewhere different. Apparently, she works with a bunch of women who all want to do this, some wanting to plan trips to places they like the names of so they can incorporate the names into their kids names. I nicely reminded her that you don't always get pregnant the first month, and it can take some time for some couples and then we went right back to vacation planning. Is this a thing and I'm just out of the loop for, or is this a little odd to some of you, too? Women already seem to always have to share labor stories, I'm really not wanting to add conception stories to the conversation too!
Thanks for the responses, I'm glad I'm not the only one thinking this is a bit much. And Suz T, relax. I didn't crap on her fun plans (what a way with words you have), all I did was answer her questions honestly when she asked how long it can take to conceive. If your idea of a friend is someone who lies to make you feel better than we disagree on the definition of "friend". She has no clue that I found the notion odd. I also feel like you can like someone (and even be a friend to them) without thinking everything they do is a fun idea, how crazy of me. I'm worried she'll be disappointed if things don't work out like she wants, but at least they will hopefully get a fun vacation out of it.
I'm guessing she would be a first-time mom still thinking you can plan everything out for the perfect time for conception, birth and having the perfect child. Hopefully everything works out for them, but if not then will that place become negative in their minds?
Personally, I'd plan a vacation to spend time alone since they'd like to have a family and if they happen to conceive great.
Speaking as someone who had no trouble getting pregnant so could pull this off, that is the dumbest thing I have ever heard.
Little Hershey has just gotten his first tooth
Middlesex, put the dog down!
[what if their car broke down somewhere on the way?]
Wake up Highway, time for school.
Hell, come here! (Michigan)
Eat your vegetables, Hercules (California)
Time to get dressed for school, Willacoochie. (Georgia)
You sure are dirty, Athol. (Idaho)
Possum Trot - you stop that right now! (Kentucky)
Well, my son's middle name would be quickie. My husband looked at me, and I got pregnant!! I think I could actually do this judging how easily I got pregnant, but I think it's just...stupid.
Cute and clever... Can't wait for them to learn the first lesson in parenting though- that every plan needs a back up plan... And a back up back plan... Be ready to plan lots of destination weekends I guess.
Oh.for.crying.out.loud.
so.damn.ridiculous.
Sounds like a nice excuse to take a vacation, but I sure feel sorry for the kids who will eventually learn they are named after the location their parents had sex. Who wants to think about their parents having sex!
coming at it from a different direction:
why not just consider this a Sex Vacation & have fun with it?
Good for them. :)
Wow, that's just about the most "first world" notion I've ever heard. How contrived.
I'm with you--it's odd!
It is one thing to spontaneously conceive while on vacation, but to coordinate it? Geez, ladies, let SOMETHING in your lives happen naturally!
My friend and her husband spontaneously conceived while on a trip to Italy, so they gave their daughter an Italian name, even though they are both Iraqi.
Why don't they just go rent a Porsche or Mercedes and "go park" somewhere?
I say judge not lest ye be judged and if that's what they want ... more power to them.
I hope they have fun and it works for them :)
Oh Bug, so funny!!!!
Bwahahahaha! That's just loopy! Good grief, what if it happens at home, will the kids middle name be Tulsa? ; )
so.......
you don't want conception stories, and yet that's your question?
what's 'nice' about you crapping all over her fun plan?
who knows if it will work or not, but they'll both enjoy it and if it works, they'll have a great story to tell their friends who actually like them.
khairete
S.
That just sounds ridiculous to me. You never know how long it's going to take to conceive. It happened really easy with my three so when I started trying after my third I thought it would happen right away but it took nine months (which didn't end up successful anyway). What, are they going to take a vacation every month? Sounds like it's just going to cause too much anxiety, trying to conceive is already stressfull as it is. Oh well, to each his own, I guess.
I have never heard of this and it seems kind of silly to me. I totally get taking a "babymoon" while you're pregnant or a last big vacation before you get pregnant. After all, once you have kids, travel becomes totally different. BUT, I think taking a trip for the purpose of getting pregnant is ridiculous.
I also really don't like naming children after places, so there's another reason not to do it, in my book. And, if I'm going to plan a big vacation, I'm going to plan it somewhere I really want to go, not somewhere that has a cool name. My friend has always wanted to go to SE Asia. Is she going to name her baby Thailand? Phuket, perhaps?
Weird.
Just really weird.
Good for them if they can get pregnant when and where they want to but for most people it takes an average of 1 year of actively trying and for a few of us it takes multiple years of trying and a fertility specialist to make it happen.
On the other hand, we sort of kind of think my FIL is not my husbands biological father.
My FIL had a high school football injury we think left him infertile.
After 10 years of marriage and no pregnancy happening, my MIL took a cruise to Mexico with her girlfriends (without Hubby) and 9 months later my husband was born.
He looks like no one else in his family and yeah, in a family of blue eyed blonds who run toward being bald early and are fair skinned, my husband is brown eyed, tans extremely easily and has kept a full dark brown head of hair.
lol, that's too much. What will people come up with next?
I bet that group could get a little competitive if things didn't work out how they had planned.
Ha, also wonder if the hubs are aware of the wifes grand ideas. not that they probably care,
I vividly remember a baby that was christened in the group along with one of my nieces being named "Summer Storm" - yup, that was pretty much the reason for her conception. Nice thing for that poor kid to carry around with her for the rest of her life. Pretty sure she doesn't want to be reminded of her conception every day. Just sayin'.
