I am 6 and half months pregnant and we have my fiancee's sister and her boyfriend living with us until like 2 months after the baby will be born. Yesterday her boyfriend told us that she is really depressed and has been having suicidal thoughts. I am totally freaking out now because i don't know what to do. I am just scared that she might do soemething stupid AND that all this stress is going to make me go into preterm labor. I just don't want to come home and find her dead in the house. My fiancee doesn't seem too worried about it but i am. My half brother committed suicide when i was younger and my fiance's step sister committed suicide just last year. Now his sister is on Prozac and i am just not sure if i should talk to someone or we should have her move in with her mom again. I am really freaked out!! PLEASE HELP!
I would suggest an intervention. You can call a local hospital for advice on this. If you believe she is a danger to herself, they can definitely help you intervene.
M. this is definitly not something to play around with. Have you talked to her? How about her mom? how long has she been on prozac? because it might take sometime to start working. I don't know how likely it will be that you will go into premature labor, but remember this is you boyfriends family. Sometimes men don't think things are serious but they are, i'm not saying this is one of them. I think you should talk to your sister inlaw and try and convinse her to go back to the doctor and tell them what you are telling me, and the sooner the better. I understand that you have had an experience with this with your brother and can see why this concerns you so much. So maybe talk to her about this, and see if she will go to the doctor, and maybe you could hold her hand through the experience. good luck and if you need to talk some more, i'm here.
chris
Is your sister in law to be on any sort of anti depressants? Is she seeing a counselor. These are two things I really advise. I know it is hard to talk to a person about these things, but it needs to be done. With you being pregnant, maybe your fiancee can talk to his sister alone. Then you can somewhat avoid the stress it may cause.
Always take this type of situation seriously. I have suffered from depression, and it is one of the hardest things I have ever faced. She will really need support and encouragement from her friends and family. But meanwhile, you take care of your self and your unborn baby!
I hope things get better.
Kay
You should have her boyfriend talk her into seeing a dr because studies have shown that anti-depressants can cause suicidal thoughts in people. You could also talk to her and tell her that you are there for her as someone to listen.
M.,
I believe you shouldn't take that lightly. The fact that she told her this is a cry for help. That is a completely scarey thing to deal with for her, and really hard to hear on your end.
I don't know what she is doing to take care of herself now, but anti depressants are a start. Is she taking them regularly? Is she going to counseling or having some sort of professional help?
I think its an awesome thing she told her. I would simply let her know you are available to talk and help her in any way you can.
I have battled depression for years upon years. Its a scary and lonely thing to go through. You cannot force anything on her, but you can try to lead her in the right direction. I don't think you should move her out because that will just lead her into thinking she is a burden on people, and she already probably believes that to some extent.
You sound as if you really care for her. Let her know that. Good luck with everything and God Bless ya!
N. C
M.
I am so sorry that you have to deal with such a huge thing at this time in your pregnancy, But I really think that your SIL should talk to someone. You should be worrying about yourself right now and if that is something that you can't do with her in the house then you really need to ask her to leave.
Good luck and Congrats on the upcoming baby!!
You can get a better idea of how serious she is about the threats by asking her if she has a plan, a means, and a date in mind. Don't be scared to use the word "suicide" with her. Get her back to the doctor! Prozac can take up to 6 weeks to be effective. good luck.
If you are that worried talk to your family and see if maybe inpatient help is an option. With a history of suicide I would be just as concerened. Just let her know you are there and you love her.
M.-
If I were you I would take her to get some counseling right away. The sooner the better you would not want her to do anything she will regret later. Also about her living at your house, I really do not think it is the best situation for you and when the baby comes. You never know what she will do at her state. Maybe her moving back in with her mom is the best choice for all of you right now. You also need your time right now before the baby is born. So you can take care of yourself and prepare for your baby, children are a whole lot of work, and they are worth it. I wish you luck with whatever you decide to do. Good luck and congrats with your new one and new life as a mother!
C.
