Hi J. - I am a 43 year old married with an 8 year old boy. I had both feet operated on to remove tailor bunion and hammertoe, but not at the same time. I had my left foot done first, and 2 weeks later after the cast and stitches removed, had my right foot done. For years I contemplated getting this surgery done because (a) I had pain, (b) I didn't like the way my feet look and (c) being inconvenient from work and personal life.
Well it has been almost 3 weeks and I can honestly say, I experienced very little pain after the surgery. I was prescribed antibiotic and pain medication. For the 1st 72 hours you must keep your feet elevated and iced 30 minutes on and 30 minutes off. Trust me it pays off cause your felt won't swell. I am now walking the shoe boot which is not the cutest, but I can walk and get around. However, my right foot still has the cast and wont' come off until another 1.5 weeks, thus causing me to depend on my hubby to drive me around town :-)
What I recommend for you if you are not experiencing any pain and want to do it for cosmetic reasons then go ahead. However, it at any time pain start, I will recommend getting it done. But wait, you said you are engaged with no children. In my real opinion, depending on date of wedding, I will just go and get the surgery done. After three days you will be able to return back to work. You will have to wear that surgical boot for 6-8 weeks, but it's worth it in the end. You want to have cute feet for the wedding and your honeymoon.
I hope I answered all your questions, but if not, send a reply and I will do my best to answer.
T.