Can anyone suggest a good counselor that can work with a guy on figuring out the future, adjusting to divorce, getting on a good path etc. We went to a counselor prior in an attempt to keep our marriage going but we decided last dec. to divorce. He has since been involved with someone during the end of our marriage and immediately after. I don't think he gave himself time to adjust and figure out his priorities. He has been dating her and living in her home- though supposedly paying some rent as well. I think he is going to move out on his own- which I think is wise. He seems depressed, confused and needs someone to talk to. He would be open to it but I need a recommendation. He has medica insurance too. Thanks!!
good morning-
sounds to me like you need to let go also-those are his issues-not yours,hes a grown man,quite capable of taking care of himself-he needs to decide on how to take care of himself now-you need to take care of you.are you ok??divorce is just like a death-it takes time to grieve and heal-just take care of you and your life-let him take care of his own issues.good luck....
God. He is the best counselor. A great bible based church with small groups for men. There are small groups for men going thru the same and they can help each other along. Figuring out the future, getting on a good path? No where else better! He needs to know how great he really is and that he has a great future! You too!
I agree that this is not your concern. It will only take valuable time away from your own life and your own priorties. You are no longer married to him and with the exception of working together to care and provide for your children, spending your emotional energy and time helping him with this goes above and beyond. I know women are raised as caretakers, but spend your valuable time caring for those who need it, not on a grown man who is no longer married to you and who chose to live with another grown woman.
I know with Medica insurance, they have UBH, you should be able to call them and ask for a refferal to someone. You can also ask if they have a hotline to call to just talk to a couselor. Good luck. You can also call United Way 211 first call for help and ask them for any services they can refer him too.
