This reminds me of my time spent with my ex-husband. Luckily, we did not have children together, although we tried, thankfully to no avail. Now I have a 5 month old daughter (with someone else), and I am a single mother, and due to a mental illness he is not able to be involved. I love it, actually, aside form the fact that I'm totally confused on how to handle her having a father in her life, or not. It is the most difficult job I could have ever signed up for, but it's worth every minute to not have to share my daughter with anyone, or leave her and not know where she is and worry if she's being taken care of. That being said, I understand where you are coming from with not wanting to leave because you're afraid you will have to share her with him. This is probably horrible advice, but I would look into all loop holes possible to just take her and run. She will grow up thinking that the way he treats you is the way a man is supposed to treat a woman, and she will be attracted to that kind of a man. It's so unbelievably difficult for you, I'm sure. I have pictured myself in that situation numerous times, and I have not figured out what I would have done yet. It would be difficult on two levels, one for your loss and two for hers. I'm overly protective of my daughter as well. That is just what I would do. I would meet with an attorney and figure out how to handle this situation. Maybe you wouldnt have to leave her with him overnight somehow. Look into all of your options first, and then decide. I tell myself that her dad doesnt need to be in her life, but I also know that girls need a father figure. I guess that's why we're supposed to be careful about picking daddys. I had no idea I would ever love someone so much, or b so protective. There are just some things you dont understand until you have a child for yourself. I hope that things workout for you, just remember your baby girl needs you to be strong and make the right decisions for her. Prayers and Hugs