Cousin with 2 Day Old Son in Need of Some Help!

If you are trying to convince her to go be with her mom then I bet her mom is a good person and someone that can help her. She would also probabaly be more able to help her long term since her kids are grown and you are probably very busy with 3 little kids. You are only on day 2. This is going to be so hard for you. She needs a long term plan and no social services here will compare to what her mom can be to her at home. You also need to think about what is best for the baby as your primary thought when helping her. Living in an apartment, no help with the baby, working to barely pay the rent, trouble caring for the baby VS being with her mom where she can work and have her mom's help w/ baby. You know what you need to do here. Good Luck.

Hi F.,

I admire you for helping your young cousin and her baby. I am afraid that within a short period of time things will become difficult in your home with your cousin and her baby.

In Rockwall there is a place called "Pregnancy Resource Center" and they would help your cousin and her baby. Is there a place in your area that can help young Mothers?

Do you have a church family that you could get Godly counsel from, encouragement, direction and help that you will need having your cousin and her baby in your home?

If her family would help her in NM, then she should probably be encouraged to go back there.

Has she been checked out by your local MHMR (Mental Health Mental Retardation) office? You can always dial 411 from a land line and they will help you get connected with them if she hasn't. They may be able to offer some suggestions regarding her care and the care of the baby.

Good Luck!

I have a cousin in that same situation. She now has three kids, but only two live with her. She gets state help with all the kids stuff and living expenses. You might want to call some state agencies and see if she quailfies for help. My cousin has an aid that came in twice a week to measure the babies weight and anwer any questions she has about the baby. We were terrified when we found out she was pregnant, but her mother took the baby boy and raised him. To all of our suprise she had another baby boy then a year later a baby girl. Both her boys have have the same problem she does and we are not sure of the little girl yet. The only advice I can give is she might really need her mother. So maybe NM is the best place for her to go right now.