Hello ladies, hope everyone has had a good weekend so far ..... Just wondering if anyone has had this same issue... my son is currently 6 months old this week and has always slept with us at night time first in the bassinet and then once he out grew it he sleeps in the bed. My biggest issue currently is i dont want him to sleep in his own bed... All day long i tell myself and my husband CRIB TONIGHT and actually believe myself but then once nighttime comes around i just cant bare to put him in his own crib it just hurts my heart thinking about him not being in the bed with us... He is a tummy sleeper and i do like having him close because im such a lite sleeper and everytime he moves alil i wake up. even tho he is flipping over and has never gone face down i tell my husband thats my fear of putting him in his room lol of course my husband justs looks at me and says whatever K. haha... I even bought a angelcare monitor but have yet to use it... Any advice on how to cut the cord on my end haha .... My husband is the greatest and hasnt said anything about us having our son in the bed but i just wanna sort it out before it ever becomes a issue ........... how do i let go
There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with bed-sharing and co-sleeping. In most parts of the world, it is standard practice.
My daughter is 5 y/o and I still bed-share... tho she's let me know she's ready for her own bed and room - which my husband and I both happily support her in!
start at naptime and put him in the bed and let him sleep or if you want him in your room and have the room put the crib in you and your husbands room. you will still be close to him and hear him and everything but you will be able to slowly relax about him sleeping alone.
The only danger in cosleeping is a dangerous environment. We co slept with all of our kids until they were 3yo. The bed was properly baby proofed so there was no chance of suffocation. Babies that die have fallen asleep in a bed with too many pillows, on a couch, in a recliner, or mom or dad are taking drugs or alcohol and are unable to wake up when needed.
I was talked out of a homebirth with my first child b/c my doc told me a story of someone she knew whose baby died b/c they weren't at a hospital. I went on to have two successful homebirths anyway after that.
I was more scared of having the baby wake up in another room and not being able to hear them, or if there was a fire not being able to get to them. People all over the world cosleep with their children with no problems, just create a safe environment. More babies die of SIDS while sleeping away from their parents than die while co-sleeping, and like I said, those babies are usually in an unsafe sleep environment.
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We always had a california king bed, and slept sideways on it to allow for extra room, even when wee had two kids in with us, we were never crowded.
My sis works in labor & delivery & in one year there has been 4 woman that have accidentally suffocated their babies from co-sleeping. Last weekend my sister called me, balling her eyes out, when I was on my way to church (she just got out of work) and asked me to pray for this lady that suffocated her little baby girl. This was her only girl out of 4 boys. The lady was so distraught she admitted herself into the psychiatric ward. The Dr's and nurses worked on this baby to no avail, everyone was crying hysterically. Sorry, but this story still haunts me.
I co sleep with both of my girls . I was a single mon with the oldest one and was very hard to get her in her own room, it took around a year and a half to do it and with my second she's 16 months right now, we still co sleep but Im really trying to get her on her crib, right now I put the crib on the side of my bed so she can jump from her bed to mine, I don't want to imposse so Im letting her decide where she's better at night.. somenights she go straight to her bed and sleep all night long and anothers she just want to be with daddy. Im 30 weeks pregnant so I have so short time to acomplish but I don't want to make her feel that she's move because the new baby..(and Im keep saying to my DH that I won't to the same with this new baby) but as a breastfeeding mom is very difficult to follow...
I think you are in a very good time to change before is get so difficult
and Im like you thinking of that poor baby all alone... but they will sleep better and you too..
lol that is to funny! I have two boys and I never put them in my bed! When they were older I let them sleep with me if they were sick. The realy funny part is I have a 7 week old little girl. LOL guess where she gets to sleep!! I'm not real sure what is going on in my head, but i have that motherly fealing I need her in my bed with me. My hubby has been good as well. He watches her durring the day and she mostly sleeps in her crib. I guess I sorta plan on sleeping with her untill a year or so. Then I will be begging those wise mamasorce girls to help, because my baby wont sleep in her bed! lol
Here's an answer I gave for another co-sleeping mom:
I co-slept with my daughter for most of her first two years, and we both loved it. I think we both got more and better sleep. Those were the days before all the warnings about SIDS. But there is quite a bit of evidence that co-sleeping is actually safer for most babies NOT in high-risk categories than sleeping alone in another room.
Weaning her to her own bed was no problem at all for us. Even after we did that successfully, she would still share my bed occasionally. Sweet times.
With my first daughter, I could not bear the thought of putting her tiny little self into this seemingly huge crib, and then walking away...so she slept with us. She slept with us until about 16 mo. old, and then it was still hard to break her of the habit...every time she woke up, she would come in. She didn't start sleeping through the night "regularly" until she was almost four.
With child number two, I didn't want to do that all over again...but if you are nursing and want to get any sleep, you really have to cosleep for awhile. She is now almost 9 months old, and we started putting her in her own bed at around 6 months old.
For about a week, I would just lay in bed and look over at her and want to cry, but I knew it was for our collective good.
And you know what? Now I just love to wake up to her smiling face, jumping up and down in the crib, crowing and yelling "maa maa" every morning. It's better than waking up with your shoulders feeling like a ton of bricks because you've slept all gimpy to make sure you aren't encroaching on your baby's space in your bed.
BTW, my daughter (the youngest one) has been a tummy sleeper from DAY ONE (she just never, never would sleep on her back and because she was so strong, her doctor okayed it) and honestly, I felt safer about it after I moved her into her own sleeping area. In our bed, of course, there are sheets, blankets, a comforter, pillows, etc...in hers, just a mattress, fitted sheet, and tiny blanket over her. It seemed safer.
