Clucking...

I love my kid, but I don't really love kids. I don't have a crazy pull toward babies. I'm happy with my one.

However, I know people who talk about babies until the day they die. My mother in law is in her sixties and says she'd have another if she could. There are woman who just never get over it.

Women need to consider - eggs are only viable for a certain set time period - if you wait too long, then your eggs cannot be used. Your spouse or partner (male) doesn't have the same issue - so it's not as imperative or life changing if they don't have more children right away. Men can inseminate past the age of 65 y/o... women are lucky if they can have another child naturally by 45 y/o.

Money can always be made... but having children - if truly your desire - should not be held off too long with the excuse of money issues. If people waited until they were financially sound and stable - majority of children would never have come t be.

Since I noticed you are only 25... go to college and finish... then start planning on an addition if yu still want another child. I'm 31 with a 5 y/o and 5 months pregnant with #2. I recently got my Nurses License and will be going to school to be a ARNP-CNM (Nurse Practitioner and Midwife) once the new baby is at least 2 y/o.

I'm basically with T.F. O. and done and no regrets...do I like to fuss over babies? Sure! Does it make me want to pop anther out? Nope.

You know, I hear a lot of ladies say things like that. Personally, I don't get it. Yes, babies are cute but I am happy to give them back! I wonder if you have a really easy baby and your hormones are tuned just right it plays a role? My son was NOT an easy baby and that newborn time is just a blur. I have a few fond memories like his little body falling asleep on my chest. But my SIL had a very difficult baby (he has autism) and she still talks about new baby smells and laments not having a third one (the second was a typical happy baby). I also didn't really want a baby until I was almost 30. I also think you want what you can't have...Yes, like anything else it gets easier. Think with your head and your heart.

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My 3 are all over 12 now but who doesn't love a baby? They are made that way, you can't help it. I just try to remind myself about the not so fun aspects like no sleep, diapers etc. and then I babysit my sister's 2 year old, to remind myself how exhausing it is.

Nope, I was one and done and no regrets.

The good part about holding a new baby is giving him/her back to mom/dad!

I've been there, done that, enjoyed each stage as I've gone through it with daughter and love my family the way it is.

Hope you are having a good weekend too. It is beautiful here today!

I embrace contentment.
And I look forward to grandchildren.

Clucking -- cute.

I LOVE babies. I am in heaven when I hold a baby. But when I was done, I was done. Can't wait for my first grandchild, in hopefully no less than 10 years. :)

Hi Ephie, I don't think it is irrational at all! It is normal and good and wonderful. I loved your description of how you feel when you hold a baby. So cute. I have 6 and I'm still hoping for more! And, I'm in my mid-40s. ;)

I have two young boys, 5 and 3. My plate is full in all aspects. Financially we are just starting to get back on our feet again, we have a three bedroom apartment which is just the right amount of space, we are just getting out of diapers and the boys are becoming independent. I still however have those little urges when I see a cute little girl or I see someone with a newborn. I start to get that calm euphoric feeling all over again. BUT it passes and I realize we are soooo done. And I am in content in knowing that soon the boys will both be in school and I will get some of my adult life back like working and having adult conversations. Not to mention they are finally getting old enough to not have to plan a whole day of activities around naptimes and they can enjoy a wider array of activities that appeal more to the family as a whole.

Another thing I remind myself is that in 20 years or so my sons will have babies and I will get to be a grandparent, and if you ask me that's ever better than being a parent. I can take them home, love and spoil them and then give them back to mom and dad and have a peaceful and quiet home again :o)
So maybe you should shift your focus to all the positives of them growing up :o).

Ephie, My 4th is 6 1/2 months old, and we've pretty much agreed that the only way we'll have another is if God sends us one on His own - we feel our hands are full (and pocketbook is empty!!). I would have more kids, but I really want to know my girls; each of them, for who they are inside, to really *get* them, you know? I don't think I'll be able to do that if we have more.

However, even with my resolve about that and my reality of baby growing so much every day (crawling any day now *sniff*), I think I'll end up having a foster care for infants or a day care for infants. I just LOVE babies. The sad thing is that they grow so quickly, and then I'm on to wanting another baby again!! My daughter went to an infant-only daycare when she was that age and the woman was probably about mid-fifties and just so loving and wonderful. I think I want to do that - provide loving care for another mom who has to go to work but doesn't want to leave her baby in a large daycare. I could snuggle babies all day long!!

I am going to be 42 this June. I have one biological 19 year old daughter and five stepkids from 20 to 14 years. I have a 6 yr old neice, an 8 yr old "Little Sister" and a friend with one year old triplets. So I have plenty of kids in my life.... but I still get that longing for a baby of my own, especially when I see or hold someone else's new one. The sane portion of my mind keeps me pinned to earth with the knowledge that truthfully I would not really want to start all anew at this time in my life with a little one, but the mama yearnings are still there and they fill me with those thoughts of wanting another baby, even when I know it is not realistic. I realize that it will likely not be long before one of our kids makes us grandparents and we both look forward to being a positive influence in our grandchildren's lives (when we get them)
So the answer is NO, I am not free from the internal voice! I DO love babies!!!

I care for the little ones in my church to get my "baby fix" I also happily take care of friends little ones, when they ask. You could always open a day care or foster parent. I have 1 sweet little girl & I love it this way. I still get my "baby fix" by helping others & get get their eternal gratitude when they need a break.

Yes, you get over it when you become a grandmother. That is the part about wishing for another baby. Just part of the "good" mother syndrome your children are benefitting from.