Clingy Friend...

Sounds pretty normal to me.

Is there a question?

Leave 13 year old girl drama to the 13 year olds. :)

ummmm... she's 13. so, i'm guessing there may be one of 2 things going on: 1. friend wants to be perceived as social (and therefore putting it out there every day) and actually just wants to hang out with your daughter as much as possible. I was way up my friends' butts at 13--it was all about self-discovery and distancing myself (in some ways) from my family (ya know, as a 13-yr-old, trying to figure out who I was, etc.). another possibility is that friend is looking for an escape--get away from a crappy home life (also from personal experience). most likely, she is being a *fairly normal* (but clingy, sure) 13-yr-old... and really connects with your dd. does your daughter have an issue with this friend, or just you? if your daughter is ok with it, I don't see the problem. by 13, your kid should be able to say, "no, I have other stuff to do" or "I can't today." I guess I just don't get the problem here.... if it IS bothering your daughter (which you don't imply in the least), seems like friend would eventually get the hint. let it be, mama.

Thank Goodness that your daughter is liked. Imagine if in future years your daughter is lonely and needs a really good pal.

my son spent his first 8 years struggling with social and emotional challenges, over many years, wonderful teachers, lots of persistence on his and our part and many many opportunties for him to experience social interactions and learn positively from them, he has become one of the most popular kids, going into 6th in sept, in his class. I do a mental woo hoo every time he is invited to a party, sleep over, outing with a friend because it proves all his hard work has been worth it. I know popularity isn't everything but it is important, especially at that age. my thought, with all due respect, is celebrate that your daughter is being sought out for friendship, it must mean she is a pretty cool kid that they want to be around. :-) S.

Does your daughter feel stifled in this relationship? Is she looking for a way to, say, assert her boundaries or push back a bit without hurting her friend's feelings?

If so, please add some more details to this post, and you'll get some more detailed replies.

If this is not a problem for your DAUGHTER, though, then please don't make it a problem for YOU. Count yourself ridiculously lucky for having so little to worry about during the teenage years so far. And give your daughter a hug for making your life so easy.

What's the question? My GD also has a clingy friend. This friend will invite herself for dinner, to sleep over, you name it.

One time while driving the friend home, she invited herself over the next day after school. My GD wasn't really happy with that and when the time came, simply told her friend that she really didn't want company that day. Friend got a little hurt, but has since gotten over it. But she has also backed off a bit and only calls once or twice a week now.

So, hopefully if your daughter tells her "no" when she really doesn't feel like hanging out, then the friend will get the message and back off. If not, your daughter should only accept the invitations she really wants and decline the rest and not feel bad about it at all.

Not sure what you are asking?

Teach your daughter that it is OK to say "thanks but no thanks, I can't today"!

~Wow! So wish my life was this uncomplicated at this point in time! Would LOVE it if my biggest problem was that my child has a friend that wants to hang out with her every day! Instead of packing up my whole house all alone & trying to move me & my 3 kids & 2 cats & 1 dog cross country all by myself!

Wanna trade lives?

Hi. What's your question?

If your daughter doesn't want to hang out, she needs to learn to say "no, thank you."

And if you feel like your daughter needs more time with the family, without this friend, you need to learn to say, "no, we're having family time tonight."

The power of "NO" is pretty awesome. But you have to actually say it. You don't have to apologize or make excuses. Just say no.

So?Your child has a best friend.Yes everyday can be tiring but say no jeez

I see where you are coming from. My 11-year old daughter had a friend like this last year. Not a BFF in my daughter's eyes, but certainly in this girl's eyes. To me, the answer to your problem lies in whether this is bothering YOU or your DAUGHTER. If you don't like it but your daughter doesn't care, then you either have to ignore it or lay down some rules that limit visits from friends (you are the parent and have every right to desire more family time). If your daughter is getting smothered by it, she will just have to step up and turn the friend down sometimes. That's what my daughter had to do.

And InMy30s - I think your answer was unduly harsh. People have problems that range in all different sizes and levels of importance and just are looking for opinions of others. I'm sorry you are having to move by yourself, but I hope you don't berate me too when I finally get around to posting a question on how to tame my daughter's out of control hair.